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<blockquote data-quote="exhausted" data-source="post: 505513" data-attributes="member: 11001"><p><span style="font-family: 'Calibri'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: #000000">Alabama Girl,</span></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Calibri'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: #000000">You can appoint a trusted friend as executor of the will and money. I do think that you can have guidelines and requirements for using the money.</span></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Calibri'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: #000000"></span></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Calibri'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: #000000">To me school just isnt very important when difficult child is using. I'm a teacher and boy did that take some work to get to that point. The hardest thing I ever did was spend college money on an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) for difficult child. The truth is, if they are not alive and well, they cant go to school let alone benefit from the education. There are a few functioning addicts that make it-but benefit??? How long will he function if he is one of those? What about happiness? They have no chance for that when they are using.</span></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Calibri'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: #000000"></span></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Calibri'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: #000000">When court happens, some choices may be taken away. He may have to get real. Or maybe-his hand will only be slapped. At this point in my difficult child journey, I would not pay for college unless difficult child was sober and not acting out-period. I'd rather spend the money on rehab if and when she wants helps. It has required that I shift my expectation and dreams for her. It has required that I grieve the loss of the smart/college ready child I thought I had. It is a day by day process. I tell myself often, this is no different than if I had the choice to give her life saving open heart surgery or sending her to college. There is no choice-she first must be alive and well. Addiction is a disease. ((Hugs))) I share your pain.</span></span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="exhausted, post: 505513, member: 11001"] [FONT=Calibri][SIZE=3][COLOR=#000000]Alabama Girl, You can appoint a trusted friend as executor of the will and money. I do think that you can have guidelines and requirements for using the money. To me school just isnt very important when difficult child is using. I'm a teacher and boy did that take some work to get to that point. The hardest thing I ever did was spend college money on an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) for difficult child. The truth is, if they are not alive and well, they cant go to school let alone benefit from the education. There are a few functioning addicts that make it-but benefit??? How long will he function if he is one of those? What about happiness? They have no chance for that when they are using. When court happens, some choices may be taken away. He may have to get real. Or maybe-his hand will only be slapped. At this point in my difficult child journey, I would not pay for college unless difficult child was sober and not acting out-period. I'd rather spend the money on rehab if and when she wants helps. It has required that I shift my expectation and dreams for her. It has required that I grieve the loss of the smart/college ready child I thought I had. It is a day by day process. I tell myself often, this is no different than if I had the choice to give her life saving open heart surgery or sending her to college. There is no choice-she first must be alive and well. Addiction is a disease. ((Hugs))) I share your pain.[SIZE=2][SIZE=1][/SIZE][/SIZE][/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [/QUOTE]
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