Hi, I am posting to this forum because I have no idea what to do. My brother is 36 and uses crack. He has been using since he was at least 16. My family had problems as most do, including an ugly divorce in which my father left us for another family. My brother has been using for all this time, but has managed to get a decent career for himself as a computer guy. His pattern is this: Get a job making $50-60k a year, get his first paycheck, go blow the whole check on crack, lose his job and apartment, and go to crash with my mother while he feels bad for himself and looks for a new job. He has been doing this for years, and my mother allows him to do so. He has done it again, except he chose a bad time cause the economy stinks right now. He has been living for my mother for at least 6 months, and in this time has stolen over $15,000 dollars from her by opening up credit cards and forging checks. We (my other brother and sister) have begged her to kick him out, go to the police, etc. She won't do anything. She won't even hide her cards, car keys, bank stuff, nothing. I need for a parent to explain my mother's behavior to me. She is an enabler, and I just do not understand it. At all. It boggles my mind. She sees he is stealing her money to go get high, and she is doing nothing. Why? I don't have children so I don't understand the whole "I gave birth to him, I'm responsible, etc." Please, please, please someone explain how and why a parent can enable a child for so long. I can see at first, you're shocked, sad, embarrassed, guilty, but after a while, you have to make a hard decision, right?! I don't know what to do. Just any parent, explain to me what is going through your head when you know your kid is using. Please. I just don't know what to do.