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<blockquote data-quote="hearts and roses" data-source="post: 310481" data-attributes="member: 2211"><p><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"><span style="font-size: 15px"><span style="color: royalblue">I would imagine that taking into account the myriad of changes to your home life this past, any counseling would be a good thing.</span></span></span></p><p></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"><span style="font-size: 15px"><span style="color: royalblue">However, marriage counseling usually only helps those marriages where both parties attend and fully cooperative in making the necessary changes it takes to make things work. </span></span></span></p><p></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"><span style="font-size: 15px"><span style="color: royalblue">H and I are currently in marriage counseling together. I went alone for a few sessions and it helped me to decide whether or not I wanted to give my marriage another try. I did and at that point, we invited H to join with me on the twice monthly appts. He's attended and it's helped, but we've reached a plateau. He's not willing or is in denial about digging a bit deeper to resolve the trust issues he has (over all, not with me so much) and all he does in session is talk about work. I would be happier if he scratched the surface a bit more and explore alternative ways in finding healthy coping skills as well as try to see things from my perspective. </span></span></span></p><p></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"><span style="font-size: 15px"><span style="color: royalblue">One thing to look for in a counselor is one who isn't afraid to call you out on YOUR behavior and attitudes as well as those of your H's. For me, that was the most helpful in making me see what changes I had to work on rather than feeling justified that H was the wrong, Know what I mean??</span></span></span></p><p></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"><span style="font-size: 15px"><span style="color: royalblue">Anyway, I hope it all works out and I too am sorry that you find yourself in this position. Hugs~</span></span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearts and roses, post: 310481, member: 2211"] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][SIZE=4][COLOR=royalblue]I would imagine that taking into account the myriad of changes to your home life this past, any counseling would be a good thing.[/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][SIZE=4][COLOR=royalblue]However, marriage counseling usually only helps those marriages where both parties attend and fully cooperative in making the necessary changes it takes to make things work. [/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][SIZE=4][COLOR=royalblue]H and I are currently in marriage counseling together. I went alone for a few sessions and it helped me to decide whether or not I wanted to give my marriage another try. I did and at that point, we invited H to join with me on the twice monthly appts. He's attended and it's helped, but we've reached a plateau. He's not willing or is in denial about digging a bit deeper to resolve the trust issues he has (over all, not with me so much) and all he does in session is talk about work. I would be happier if he scratched the surface a bit more and explore alternative ways in finding healthy coping skills as well as try to see things from my perspective. [/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][SIZE=4][COLOR=royalblue]One thing to look for in a counselor is one who isn't afraid to call you out on YOUR behavior and attitudes as well as those of your H's. For me, that was the most helpful in making me see what changes I had to work on rather than feeling justified that H was the wrong, Know what I mean??[/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][SIZE=4][COLOR=royalblue]Anyway, I hope it all works out and I too am sorry that you find yourself in this position. Hugs~[/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [/QUOTE]
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