We tried counseling about 1.5 yrs ago, they wanted for us to do marriage sessions 1 time a month, but wanted to see him 2 times a month in addition to that. He went 2 times and then stopped. The dr. wanted to talk to him about his anger/anxiety/depression, losing his father 6 yrs ago, alcoholism as well as verbal abuse situations in the past as well as young sexual abuse for 3 years that happened to him. When people want to talk about things like this, he won't talk, he leaves, or finds a way to blame everything on someone else, or start yelling about other issue to take the focus off him. If that makes sense.
We are however doing family sessions with my ds with the issues. We have only been 1 time, but he has agreed to do this 2 times a month, so I know he hasn't given up, but he does say it from time to time. It breaks my heart. I know they are not his flesh and blood, but their real dad lives 600 miles away, and refuses to move here, etc...that's another story.
I think my son who is going through this is alot like my husband, anger out of control, smart mouthed, selfishness, etc...but husband doesn't see it this way.
I'm so happy to have found this site, I feel some support here at least.
