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<blockquote data-quote="DaisyFace" data-source="post: 315693" data-attributes="member: 6546"><p>K--</p><p> </p><p>As the parent of an 11-12 year old....you absolutely should know where your child is and what theya re doing and who they are with at every moment of every day. If anything happened to that child, it would be squarely blamed on poor parenting.</p><p> </p><p>At 13-14 years old, we should hopefully be starting to see some signs of maturity, responsibilty and independence...and kids should be given priviledges in accordance with their level of maturity. However, they are in no way, no how, an adult and they are not legally recognized as an adult nor are they afforded the rights, responsibilites and priviledges of an adult--they are still a child and you are still the parent.</p><p> </p><p>FWIW--I think this counselor you are working with is very misguided and seems to misunderstand the whole situation. I think you are absolutely right to expect to hold this child to some level of "house rules" until he is of the age to be able to be legally on his own. At that point, he is on his own.</p><p> </p><p>If he is sent to live with your brother, will your brother also be asked to come to an agreement allowing difficult child to come and go as he pleases? What about a group home--would they, too, be expected to allow difficult child that sort of freedom?</p><p> </p><p>If not, then why are you asked to?</p><p> </p><p>--DaisyFace</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DaisyFace, post: 315693, member: 6546"] K-- As the parent of an 11-12 year old....you absolutely should know where your child is and what theya re doing and who they are with at every moment of every day. If anything happened to that child, it would be squarely blamed on poor parenting. At 13-14 years old, we should hopefully be starting to see some signs of maturity, responsibilty and independence...and kids should be given priviledges in accordance with their level of maturity. However, they are in no way, no how, an adult and they are not legally recognized as an adult nor are they afforded the rights, responsibilites and priviledges of an adult--they are still a child and you are still the parent. FWIW--I think this counselor you are working with is very misguided and seems to misunderstand the whole situation. I think you are absolutely right to expect to hold this child to some level of "house rules" until he is of the age to be able to be legally on his own. At that point, he is on his own. If he is sent to live with your brother, will your brother also be asked to come to an agreement allowing difficult child to come and go as he pleases? What about a group home--would they, too, be expected to allow difficult child that sort of freedom? If not, then why are you asked to? --DaisyFace [/QUOTE]
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