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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 316097" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>That's exactly how I was looking at things before this wonderful family therapist let her objectives known. But now I'm up again because I can't sleep due to worrying about this. I go see difficult child tomorrow- who knows if he's being sincere about this stuff at this point so I am tense over this visit. And, I'm even more worried about the upcoming phone call from therapist later in the week because it will be all I can do not to lose it on this woman. </p><p></p><p>If I was to let difficult child come home convinced that all his problems had been my fault, it isn't an illegal activity in the neighborhood I'm primarily concerned about. It is being physically harmed by him or having the house trashed the first time he thinks I'm not lenient enough. Really, if he gets out between mid-Jan and early-Feb., he'll be off house arrest by mid-March. That still leaves him 6 weeks of whatever possesses him that time of year. He's already asked me if he could have friends over while he's on house arrest. I told him I didn't think he was supposed to. He said "well the PO will never know- MOMMMmmmmm- you see- you NEVER let me hang around friends."</p><p></p><p>I don't think PO will put a behavior plan in place for home- but, if he comes out of Department of Juvenile Justice with one in place from a Department of Juvenile Justice therapist, the PO (and probably would- especially with difficult child having a GAL who thinks everything is my fault) write in the requirements that we had to follow it. See, when the kid is a minor, the parent has to sign the same documents as the kid stating that the parent agrees to "support" whatever requirements are ordered, and they do effect the parents- it's not all just being there to report the kid who violates. It will be bad enough dealing with it if difficult child pulls the "victim" stuff on the mentor and he believes it- the mentor can have the PO write stuff up for the family, too. So basicly, I am not comfortable bringing difficult child home as long as he has this in his head. It never occurred to me that he'd get a therapist in Department of Juvenile Justice who reinforced it rather than worked with him to not blame others and accept my rules as well as the PO's.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 316097, member: 3699"] That's exactly how I was looking at things before this wonderful family therapist let her objectives known. But now I'm up again because I can't sleep due to worrying about this. I go see difficult child tomorrow- who knows if he's being sincere about this stuff at this point so I am tense over this visit. And, I'm even more worried about the upcoming phone call from therapist later in the week because it will be all I can do not to lose it on this woman. If I was to let difficult child come home convinced that all his problems had been my fault, it isn't an illegal activity in the neighborhood I'm primarily concerned about. It is being physically harmed by him or having the house trashed the first time he thinks I'm not lenient enough. Really, if he gets out between mid-Jan and early-Feb., he'll be off house arrest by mid-March. That still leaves him 6 weeks of whatever possesses him that time of year. He's already asked me if he could have friends over while he's on house arrest. I told him I didn't think he was supposed to. He said "well the PO will never know- MOMMMmmmmm- you see- you NEVER let me hang around friends." I don't think PO will put a behavior plan in place for home- but, if he comes out of Department of Juvenile Justice with one in place from a Department of Juvenile Justice therapist, the PO (and probably would- especially with difficult child having a GAL who thinks everything is my fault) write in the requirements that we had to follow it. See, when the kid is a minor, the parent has to sign the same documents as the kid stating that the parent agrees to "support" whatever requirements are ordered, and they do effect the parents- it's not all just being there to report the kid who violates. It will be bad enough dealing with it if difficult child pulls the "victim" stuff on the mentor and he believes it- the mentor can have the PO write stuff up for the family, too. So basicly, I am not comfortable bringing difficult child home as long as he has this in his head. It never occurred to me that he'd get a therapist in Department of Juvenile Justice who reinforced it rather than worked with him to not blame others and accept my rules as well as the PO's. [/QUOTE]
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