Hi. So my difficult child went into a residential treatment center a week and a half ago. I visited once, and it was so sad. Every time he calls, mon, we'd, and fri, he tells me how bad it is there, how "crazy" the other kids are, all the fights that break out, etc. my son is not a " fighter", he is a smart, respectful kid( except at home!). tonight, he told me that a girl hit another girl with a tray at lunch, and she got 13 stitches. He also told me that he got two "death threats" while in school today. The kid that threatened him is not in his "house", but is in school with him. On Saturday, my difficult child told me there were six fights that broke out during the day, some in his house, some not. I did get confirmation from his therapist that it had been a "bad weekend", and there were indeed six fights. And again, the issue with him not even having sheets for a week really made me angry. Tonight while was on the phone with him, I heard an alarm going off, and he said it was a " girl fight" in his house. It just sounds like chaos in the background. I am very torn. I want him to get help, but now I am thinking that this may not be all that therapeutic for him with all that goes on there. Apparently, many kids are court ordered to be there, and there is even a group of "sexual offenders". It is so peaceful at home with him gone. No arguing, no conflict. His therapist is great, the NP that works with him is great. The facility seems good, but I am seriously thinking this may not be helping him. He is on a new medication (Depakote), which is good. But I really don't think that being in that environment is likely helping (other than maybe scaring the **** out of him, so that hopefully he won't want to go to another place!). I don't want to "cave"! But I don't want him to get hurt either! I keep thinking of "what if"... Help!