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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 32030" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Being a strict parent is ok. I'm a strict parent. Knowing when to be strict is the key with teens.</p><p></p><p>After the age of 13 I no longer restricted music or movies. Janet has a point. Most parent's think their kids music is the most awful crud they've ever heard. I like most of the music my kids like. N can go if for some of the darker stuff depending on her mood. Sometimes I'll hear it and it'll trigger conversation between us. We start by focusing on what she thinks the song is saying. Sometimes it can be really interesting to get her take on it.</p><p></p><p>I'd say you're doing pretty good if your son is pretty much just wanting to do the same stuff his friends are allowed to do. Teenhood is when are kids learn to spread their wings and discover themselves. It's really hard to do that with parent's breathing too closely down your neck. When my kids reached teenhood many of the house rules had to be adjusted to accomodate.</p><p></p><p>That's not to say my kids got to do whatever their friends did. Kids around here tend to run the town at all hours, parents think little of it since we're a small town. I had to always know where my kids were and to be able to call and they be there. They were never allowed to just run the town. easy child often went to parties at her friends and sleep over. I knew the parents would be home. Doesn't mean the kids still couldn't have managed to get into some trouble, but it limited their possibilities. I tried to come up with respectful and fundimental rules that both parent and child could live with. And there were reasonable consequences for when those rules were broken.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 32030, member: 84"] Being a strict parent is ok. I'm a strict parent. Knowing when to be strict is the key with teens. After the age of 13 I no longer restricted music or movies. Janet has a point. Most parent's think their kids music is the most awful crud they've ever heard. I like most of the music my kids like. N can go if for some of the darker stuff depending on her mood. Sometimes I'll hear it and it'll trigger conversation between us. We start by focusing on what she thinks the song is saying. Sometimes it can be really interesting to get her take on it. I'd say you're doing pretty good if your son is pretty much just wanting to do the same stuff his friends are allowed to do. Teenhood is when are kids learn to spread their wings and discover themselves. It's really hard to do that with parent's breathing too closely down your neck. When my kids reached teenhood many of the house rules had to be adjusted to accomodate. That's not to say my kids got to do whatever their friends did. Kids around here tend to run the town at all hours, parents think little of it since we're a small town. I had to always know where my kids were and to be able to call and they be there. They were never allowed to just run the town. easy child often went to parties at her friends and sleep over. I knew the parents would be home. Doesn't mean the kids still couldn't have managed to get into some trouble, but it limited their possibilities. I tried to come up with respectful and fundimental rules that both parent and child could live with. And there were reasonable consequences for when those rules were broken. [/QUOTE]
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