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<blockquote data-quote="Arttillygirl" data-source="post: 32209" data-attributes="member: 3522"><p>Well I must say this is the most help I have ever received in one place! Why pay a shrink!??!?</p><p></p><p>Last night, armed with wisdom from you all, we went to a party without my son.</p><p>The folk who had the party had a prodigal too. He left school at 17, became a janitor, stole stuff from a hospital, went to jail. They didn't bail him out. </p><p></p><p>My husband respects and likes them and they suggested, PG13-don't even try to forbid, Rap-don't allow objectionable in your home-(I understand the Eminem defense but how can we take him to church on Sunday and live lives of faith and then let him listen to lyrics like he writes. EX; (Telling his daughter that Mommys in the trunk with a knife in her neck- lets put her in the river and watch her float) I cant go that far. Do I think he'll commit murder, no but who needs that garbage in their heads?</p><p>He can choose other artists. That guy needs help, But again we can only control what he listens to here and they will need to be the clean versions.</p><p></p><p>Internet-already in central place with spyware. I have an apple so lots of the cool programs dont work but he knows I know everywhere he goes so even though it doesn't prevent him from going there, he knows there'll be consequences. </p><p></p><p>We discussed the boy and decided that my son has the training from us and will be making his own choices now and hurting him by forbidding him won't do anything but enrage him more, so we are going to let him spend the night.</p><p>They dont want to come over here but we might insist on that next time. Even so I dont' know what goes on under the covers after midnight with any of his sleepovers.</p><p>Not that I suspect anything, we have established how much he likes girls. But my brother is gay and I just wouldn't wish that life on anyone if it can be avoided. My brother himself would agree. (TerryJ2: the boy was molested at 10 by an older cousin. My brother was molested young too.)</p><p></p><p>But back to the subject. We are going to have him write a list of what he "needs and wants" this family to look like. And we will write what we desire. Maybe we can even sign it because I know when all this blows over husband will go back to his severe ways.</p><p></p><p>Thanks again to all and if anyone has any other ideas about this plan please share, we are going to try it today.</p><p>B</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Arttillygirl, post: 32209, member: 3522"] Well I must say this is the most help I have ever received in one place! Why pay a shrink!??!? Last night, armed with wisdom from you all, we went to a party without my son. The folk who had the party had a prodigal too. He left school at 17, became a janitor, stole stuff from a hospital, went to jail. They didn't bail him out. My husband respects and likes them and they suggested, PG13-don't even try to forbid, Rap-don't allow objectionable in your home-(I understand the Eminem defense but how can we take him to church on Sunday and live lives of faith and then let him listen to lyrics like he writes. EX; (Telling his daughter that Mommys in the trunk with a knife in her neck- lets put her in the river and watch her float) I cant go that far. Do I think he'll commit murder, no but who needs that garbage in their heads? He can choose other artists. That guy needs help, But again we can only control what he listens to here and they will need to be the clean versions. Internet-already in central place with spyware. I have an apple so lots of the cool programs dont work but he knows I know everywhere he goes so even though it doesn't prevent him from going there, he knows there'll be consequences. We discussed the boy and decided that my son has the training from us and will be making his own choices now and hurting him by forbidding him won't do anything but enrage him more, so we are going to let him spend the night. They dont want to come over here but we might insist on that next time. Even so I dont' know what goes on under the covers after midnight with any of his sleepovers. Not that I suspect anything, we have established how much he likes girls. But my brother is gay and I just wouldn't wish that life on anyone if it can be avoided. My brother himself would agree. (TerryJ2: the boy was molested at 10 by an older cousin. My brother was molested young too.) But back to the subject. We are going to have him write a list of what he "needs and wants" this family to look like. And we will write what we desire. Maybe we can even sign it because I know when all this blows over husband will go back to his severe ways. Thanks again to all and if anyone has any other ideas about this plan please share, we are going to try it today. B [/QUOTE]
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