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<blockquote data-quote="neednewtechnique" data-source="post: 32713" data-attributes="member: 3527"><p>I agree with your pastor. You cannot protect your child from all of the evil in the world. I know I may have come across earlier like I was SUPPORTIVE of the Eminem thing, but that is not exactly the case. I was simply trying to share my experience with the artist a few years ago when I was a teen, and also to pass along the advice we were given by our difficult child's therapist when we addressed the issue. </p><p></p><p>As our children grow, we are teaching them and praying for them and believing that God will honor that by protecting and guiding them once the time comes for us to step back and let them make their own choices. At your son's age, sometimes the best thing you can do is "LET GO AND LET GOD". This is a phrase I heard a long time ago from a very dear friend and it really stuck with me. And I KNOW that God will not look down on you for trusting him to help guide your son in the right direction, and if anyone else does, then they truly need their own wakeup call. People in your church may not understand why you allow certain things to go on in your son's life that surely they think are inappropriate, but just politely remind them that you have spent his entire life giving him the tools he needs to succeed, but that your son is at a point in his life where he needs to be allowed to make his own choices so that he can truly feel God's conviction for himself. This in itself will be your son's greatest gift. It is easy to do something behind your parents back, and you don't get in trouble if they dont' find out, but it won't be long before God will convict him and he will feel sorry and start to make some positive changes for himself. Good parenting, medication, and good psychiatrists/therapists are all great tools, but nothing in this world can compare to the things that GOD can do for ALL of our children. </p><p></p><p>Something else to consider, if your son likes the "hard rap" STYLE of music, there are PLENTY of Christian bands now that play music with the same "sound" as bands such as Eminem and others, but with MUCH MORE POSITIVE lyrics. I am sure that your church's youth pastor could point you in the right direction, or if you need some other ideas, I could go take a look at my brother's CD collection and get some artists/titles for you. He has mountains of CD's that are just that style. That was the ONLY way he was able to kick his "bad music" interest, and it really worked for him to just go buy the bands that sound the same but have much better lyrics.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="neednewtechnique, post: 32713, member: 3527"] I agree with your pastor. You cannot protect your child from all of the evil in the world. I know I may have come across earlier like I was SUPPORTIVE of the Eminem thing, but that is not exactly the case. I was simply trying to share my experience with the artist a few years ago when I was a teen, and also to pass along the advice we were given by our difficult child's therapist when we addressed the issue. As our children grow, we are teaching them and praying for them and believing that God will honor that by protecting and guiding them once the time comes for us to step back and let them make their own choices. At your son's age, sometimes the best thing you can do is "LET GO AND LET GOD". This is a phrase I heard a long time ago from a very dear friend and it really stuck with me. And I KNOW that God will not look down on you for trusting him to help guide your son in the right direction, and if anyone else does, then they truly need their own wakeup call. People in your church may not understand why you allow certain things to go on in your son's life that surely they think are inappropriate, but just politely remind them that you have spent his entire life giving him the tools he needs to succeed, but that your son is at a point in his life where he needs to be allowed to make his own choices so that he can truly feel God's conviction for himself. This in itself will be your son's greatest gift. It is easy to do something behind your parents back, and you don't get in trouble if they dont' find out, but it won't be long before God will convict him and he will feel sorry and start to make some positive changes for himself. Good parenting, medication, and good psychiatrists/therapists are all great tools, but nothing in this world can compare to the things that GOD can do for ALL of our children. Something else to consider, if your son likes the "hard rap" STYLE of music, there are PLENTY of Christian bands now that play music with the same "sound" as bands such as Eminem and others, but with MUCH MORE POSITIVE lyrics. I am sure that your church's youth pastor could point you in the right direction, or if you need some other ideas, I could go take a look at my brother's CD collection and get some artists/titles for you. He has mountains of CD's that are just that style. That was the ONLY way he was able to kick his "bad music" interest, and it really worked for him to just go buy the bands that sound the same but have much better lyrics. [/QUOTE]
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