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Please Help?? 6 YO Daughter Possible ODD, Borderline (BPD), or ADHD??
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<blockquote data-quote="Izzys Ma" data-source="post: 460173" data-attributes="member: 12799"><p>Thank you for your quick response.</p><p></p><p>She is my biological daughter. She has never been taken away or lived with anyone other than myself. We did live my parents until my husband and I could afford to buy a house which occured when my daughter was 4.5 years old. </p><p></p><p>In terms of having a family history of any disorders that is a tough one. There is no such history from either myself or my husband but my brother has been diagnosed with a slew of different disorders (all of which came into play when he swallowed over 100 Coricidin cold pills) such as schizoeffective disorder and bipolar disorder. He is currently in prison.</p><p></p><p>Some of the things that I thought and/or think make my daughter different are the following:</p><p>~ Very particular as a baby in terms of who she would allow to hold her withhout crying; not affectionate to very many people outside of myself, husband, and maternal grandparents; would cry if someone other than these people would pick her up and hug her.</p><p></p><p>~HATED the car since birth. Would scream and cry to the point af almost hyperventilating. Same goes with going into stores.</p><p></p><p>~Had to be held ALL of the time. Hated to be put down - a wonder she learned to crawl. </p><p></p><p>~As a baby and through most of her toddler years she HAD to be on a routine or you were looking at one upset baby/toddler. My husband and I literally had to plan things around what she could handle in terms of time or events.</p><p></p><p>~Sad to say but she was never really extremely happy about anything. Always had great Christmas's, birthdays, etc but NO smiles or excitement until she turned 5 when I was delighted to see her smile on Christmas. Brought her on a mini-vacation to a great children's theme park last year and she spent 75% of the time being disappointed and crying about everything (I really did not ever know why she was so upset).</p><p></p><p>~ Was a VERY smart baby. Loved to learn and had the patience to do so - would sit down and be read to for hours. Had access to crayons, markers, paints, etc. 100% of the time and never did anything wrong with them. Knew most of her colors and shapes by the time she was one. Knew the basis animal sounds by the time she was one and would make on request. Talked relatively early. Could do certain "funny" things on command by the time she was 6 months. Did show some OCDish type of things when she was young (between 1 and 2) though (e.g. needing to have crayons in color groups and sorting things by size and getting somewhat irritated if someone disturbed this).</p><p></p><p>~ALWAYS needed attention and still does. She has to be busy doing something...when she gets into playing a game (loves pretending so use "doctors" for example) this game will go on for hours. She has been like this forever...guess you could call it hyperfocusing. If she wants to play doctor and you would like to play something different you might think it was the end of the world. She has always been like this. </p><p></p><p>~We use to describer her as having a battery in her and it was hard to keep up with her - my husband and I are only in our late 20's. This was recently used as an excuse as to why my aunt (her great aunt) would never allow her to visit her house...that was and is very sad to me and my daughter. The battery thing has somewhat dimished with age although she does have her moments still.</p><p></p><p>~Up until around 3 years old, even with the above "quirks," she was very loving, caring and helpful (if you were one of the people she cared for such as myself, husband and maternal grandparents). She cared if you were happy, sad, etc. and truly wanted to make you happy. Would help clean her room or throw trash away.</p><p></p><p>~ At around 3 years old it was as if a switch had been hit and I had a new child. Slowly but surely lost the attention to learn. If she cant figure it out right away she gets very angry and frustrated and will refuse to do it. Still doesn't quite get how to undress herself (shirt) completely. Sometimes she will turn violent (at home or grandparents house only - maintains composure at school and after-school care very well with the exception of one recent crying episode at school because she misunderstood the teacher). </p><p></p><p>~She does not like to make you happy anymore...simple requests are blatantly ignored and she does the exact opposite of most any request given to her. </p><p></p><p>~Does not like to be complimented or thanked for anything now....really seems to either frustrate or anger her. </p><p></p><p>~Used to be a big Daddy's girl (and Mommy's girl) but now sometimes she gets mad even if we go to hug her. Very touchy if you will. But she inisits I lay with her at night.</p><p></p><p>~Will be fine one minute and then not the next. Sometimes you can see when this is going to happen just by looking at her facial expression.</p><p></p><p>~Everything has to go her way or there will be an explosion. </p><p></p><p>She has never been evaluated by a therapist but did tell her PCP that she would punch me in the face if I enforced time out at her 5 year physical over a year ago.</p><p></p><p>In regards to reading The Explosive Child I am in the middle of reading it. I bought last week in an effort to help my baby. It has been hard to use some of these techniques because when I start with Step 1 (Empathy) and the "I have noticed...whatever" she tells me to shut up and that she is going to get mad...and this is when she is not in the middle of an explosion.</p><p></p><p>I am sure that I have left some things out in regards to her but will reread and add onto it.</p><p></p><p>I am really hoping that I can help her. It breaks my heart because I have tried so hard to give her a great life and I do not want her entire childhood to be like this...</p><p></p><p>Thank you!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Izzys Ma, post: 460173, member: 12799"] Thank you for your quick response. She is my biological daughter. She has never been taken away or lived with anyone other than myself. We did live my parents until my husband and I could afford to buy a house which occured when my daughter was 4.5 years old. In terms of having a family history of any disorders that is a tough one. There is no such history from either myself or my husband but my brother has been diagnosed with a slew of different disorders (all of which came into play when he swallowed over 100 Coricidin cold pills) such as schizoeffective disorder and bipolar disorder. He is currently in prison. Some of the things that I thought and/or think make my daughter different are the following: ~ Very particular as a baby in terms of who she would allow to hold her withhout crying; not affectionate to very many people outside of myself, husband, and maternal grandparents; would cry if someone other than these people would pick her up and hug her. ~HATED the car since birth. Would scream and cry to the point af almost hyperventilating. Same goes with going into stores. ~Had to be held ALL of the time. Hated to be put down - a wonder she learned to crawl. ~As a baby and through most of her toddler years she HAD to be on a routine or you were looking at one upset baby/toddler. My husband and I literally had to plan things around what she could handle in terms of time or events. ~Sad to say but she was never really extremely happy about anything. Always had great Christmas's, birthdays, etc but NO smiles or excitement until she turned 5 when I was delighted to see her smile on Christmas. Brought her on a mini-vacation to a great children's theme park last year and she spent 75% of the time being disappointed and crying about everything (I really did not ever know why she was so upset). ~ Was a VERY smart baby. Loved to learn and had the patience to do so - would sit down and be read to for hours. Had access to crayons, markers, paints, etc. 100% of the time and never did anything wrong with them. Knew most of her colors and shapes by the time she was one. Knew the basis animal sounds by the time she was one and would make on request. Talked relatively early. Could do certain "funny" things on command by the time she was 6 months. Did show some OCDish type of things when she was young (between 1 and 2) though (e.g. needing to have crayons in color groups and sorting things by size and getting somewhat irritated if someone disturbed this). ~ALWAYS needed attention and still does. She has to be busy doing something...when she gets into playing a game (loves pretending so use "doctors" for example) this game will go on for hours. She has been like this forever...guess you could call it hyperfocusing. If she wants to play doctor and you would like to play something different you might think it was the end of the world. She has always been like this. ~We use to describer her as having a battery in her and it was hard to keep up with her - my husband and I are only in our late 20's. This was recently used as an excuse as to why my aunt (her great aunt) would never allow her to visit her house...that was and is very sad to me and my daughter. The battery thing has somewhat dimished with age although she does have her moments still. ~Up until around 3 years old, even with the above "quirks," she was very loving, caring and helpful (if you were one of the people she cared for such as myself, husband and maternal grandparents). She cared if you were happy, sad, etc. and truly wanted to make you happy. Would help clean her room or throw trash away. ~ At around 3 years old it was as if a switch had been hit and I had a new child. Slowly but surely lost the attention to learn. If she cant figure it out right away she gets very angry and frustrated and will refuse to do it. Still doesn't quite get how to undress herself (shirt) completely. Sometimes she will turn violent (at home or grandparents house only - maintains composure at school and after-school care very well with the exception of one recent crying episode at school because she misunderstood the teacher). ~She does not like to make you happy anymore...simple requests are blatantly ignored and she does the exact opposite of most any request given to her. ~Does not like to be complimented or thanked for anything now....really seems to either frustrate or anger her. ~Used to be a big Daddy's girl (and Mommy's girl) but now sometimes she gets mad even if we go to hug her. Very touchy if you will. But she inisits I lay with her at night. ~Will be fine one minute and then not the next. Sometimes you can see when this is going to happen just by looking at her facial expression. ~Everything has to go her way or there will be an explosion. She has never been evaluated by a therapist but did tell her PCP that she would punch me in the face if I enforced time out at her 5 year physical over a year ago. In regards to reading The Explosive Child I am in the middle of reading it. I bought last week in an effort to help my baby. It has been hard to use some of these techniques because when I start with Step 1 (Empathy) and the "I have noticed...whatever" she tells me to shut up and that she is going to get mad...and this is when she is not in the middle of an explosion. I am sure that I have left some things out in regards to her but will reread and add onto it. I am really hoping that I can help her. It breaks my heart because I have tried so hard to give her a great life and I do not want her entire childhood to be like this... Thank you! [/QUOTE]
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