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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 392710" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>I can't give you any magic answers. We did go through this with difficult child 1, but what changed him was when we confronted him with the amount of money we worked out he had stolen from my wallet, and I uncharacteristically burst into tears at the massive breach of trust. This had a very strong impact on difficult child 1 and he never stole again.</p><p></p><p>I cannot guarantee that this would help you in any way. What I think affected difficult child 1, was he had not realised the wider impact of his actions; his motives were purely acquisitive. We live in a society which preaches instant gratification and our children are especially vulnerable, when they are more impulsive as well as less able to think laterally about consequences. It took a graphic demonstration for difficult child 1 to 'get it'.</p><p></p><p>The term "difficult child" or "Gift From God" is a way of reminding ourselves that it takes a very special parent, one whom God trusts, to manage a child like this. And there is irony in it too, as we wonder why we've been saddled with such a burden. But we need to remember to love our children too, even as we sometimes don't like them very much.</p><p></p><p>I'm sorry you had few replies before. It does happen sometimes, especially if you posted at a time when fewer people were available. New members posts also are moderated, and this can seem to slow things down a lot. Once you've posted a few times things should happen a lot faster.</p><p></p><p>And sometimes, disappointingly, there are few responses because you've asked a question that is impossible to answer.</p><p></p><p>A book we recommend for difficult, impulsive children is "The Explosive Child"by Ross Greene, which might give you some more useful information.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 392710, member: 1991"] I can't give you any magic answers. We did go through this with difficult child 1, but what changed him was when we confronted him with the amount of money we worked out he had stolen from my wallet, and I uncharacteristically burst into tears at the massive breach of trust. This had a very strong impact on difficult child 1 and he never stole again. I cannot guarantee that this would help you in any way. What I think affected difficult child 1, was he had not realised the wider impact of his actions; his motives were purely acquisitive. We live in a society which preaches instant gratification and our children are especially vulnerable, when they are more impulsive as well as less able to think laterally about consequences. It took a graphic demonstration for difficult child 1 to 'get it'. The term "difficult child" or "Gift From God" is a way of reminding ourselves that it takes a very special parent, one whom God trusts, to manage a child like this. And there is irony in it too, as we wonder why we've been saddled with such a burden. But we need to remember to love our children too, even as we sometimes don't like them very much. I'm sorry you had few replies before. It does happen sometimes, especially if you posted at a time when fewer people were available. New members posts also are moderated, and this can seem to slow things down a lot. Once you've posted a few times things should happen a lot faster. And sometimes, disappointingly, there are few responses because you've asked a question that is impossible to answer. A book we recommend for difficult, impulsive children is "The Explosive Child"by Ross Greene, which might give you some more useful information. Marg [/QUOTE]
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