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Please help me my 38 year old son lives in our house and is on meth and heroin i need some help
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 682521" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Nature, I have a daughter who once abused almost every drug under the sun. I feel you are a GREAT GREAT addition to our board with much wisdom! Of course, it was hard fought. None of us were ready to "let go" at the beginning, but I have loved all of your posts so far and feel you understand, at least in your mind (easier to say things sometimes than do them).</p><p></p><p>If it makes you feel better, at nineteen, we made Daughter leave. She did not have to go homeless, although we were ready to accept that if she couldn't find a place to stay, but the place she DID stay in was very confining...one wrong move, even one lit cigarette in the house, and she was in the streets for real. She had no car and was in a new state so she followed her very straight-arrow, strict brother's rules in order to reside in his basement and quit smoking and everything else, including meth, which is hard to kick. She got a job in w which she had to walk back and forth in Chicago's winter. She helped clean the house. She cooked for the young men who lived at the house and paid rent. My son is not one to tolerate anything...not cigarettes, not pot, not beer, nothing. He is extremely religious and takes it to an extreme most don't do and he thinks everything is a sin and will not allow any sins in his house and does not give second chances. We no longer have contact with him, but he was around long enough to help this sister kick drugs, just by being a jerk about her making any mistakes so she didn't.</p><p></p><p>His story is his own...adopted from another country at age six and never really bonded, and I haven't seen him in ten years (he is brilliant and very financially successful so at least I don't worry about his welfare). I will always be grateful for the time he allowed Princess to stay in his house under zero tolerance rules. It changed her life. I am convinced tough love is the best route to take with drug users who are not also very disabled (as is cognitively delayed or on the autism spectrum). Even then...maybe it works best.</p><p></p><p>At any rate, thanks for your thoughts, Nature, and good luck to you. Welcome here!!!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 682521, member: 1550"] Nature, I have a daughter who once abused almost every drug under the sun. I feel you are a GREAT GREAT addition to our board with much wisdom! Of course, it was hard fought. None of us were ready to "let go" at the beginning, but I have loved all of your posts so far and feel you understand, at least in your mind (easier to say things sometimes than do them). If it makes you feel better, at nineteen, we made Daughter leave. She did not have to go homeless, although we were ready to accept that if she couldn't find a place to stay, but the place she DID stay in was very confining...one wrong move, even one lit cigarette in the house, and she was in the streets for real. She had no car and was in a new state so she followed her very straight-arrow, strict brother's rules in order to reside in his basement and quit smoking and everything else, including meth, which is hard to kick. She got a job in w which she had to walk back and forth in Chicago's winter. She helped clean the house. She cooked for the young men who lived at the house and paid rent. My son is not one to tolerate anything...not cigarettes, not pot, not beer, nothing. He is extremely religious and takes it to an extreme most don't do and he thinks everything is a sin and will not allow any sins in his house and does not give second chances. We no longer have contact with him, but he was around long enough to help this sister kick drugs, just by being a jerk about her making any mistakes so she didn't. His story is his own...adopted from another country at age six and never really bonded, and I haven't seen him in ten years (he is brilliant and very financially successful so at least I don't worry about his welfare). I will always be grateful for the time he allowed Princess to stay in his house under zero tolerance rules. It changed her life. I am convinced tough love is the best route to take with drug users who are not also very disabled (as is cognitively delayed or on the autism spectrum). Even then...maybe it works best. At any rate, thanks for your thoughts, Nature, and good luck to you. Welcome here!!!! [/QUOTE]
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