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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 599087" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>nik, our son was sneaky and crafty too or how could he have gotten away with all he did for three years? I am a stay at home parent and thought I had it all together and saw it all. The kids told me, after he left, that he even fondled MY breasts if I fell asleep in the living room (I am a heavy sleeper). It made them think he was invincible. He set tiny fires in his bedroom in front of the kids and threatened to burn the house down, much like this foster child we knew actually DID do. And he would tell the little ones, "I'm the Devil and even God can't stop me." Remember now these are two very young kids, seven and five, and they saw his evil deeds and believed it. This is how perpetrators scare victims into silence. And the victims are always much younger. He never tried anything with my oldest daughter. He knew she'd have killed him and told all. </p><p></p><p>It is sad that I's first experiences in life made him a Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) kid, which is essentially a child with antisocial personality disorder. And we could go on and on about how he never had a chance and how sad it was that he developed into what he is and that it isn't his fault. I'm sure Ted Bundy had a horrible first three years too. And Charles Manson did. However, once a person has developed into a dangerous, evil being, we have to protect others from that person and not lament at how he is this way or that way because of his upbringing.</p><p></p><p>I would NEVER leave your eighteen month daughter alone. EVER EVER EVER. And you really do need to find out of home placement before this child does irreparable harm to one of you. He is SO MUCH like our ex-son. I'm sure some people who have never lived this think it is horrible that I call him my ex-son and never saw him again, even after he had penetrating sex with his five year old sister. I can not relate to those people other than to say you kinda had to be there...I knew I needed to save the victims and not make the victims feel I was aiding and comforting their abuser. I think that's partly why both of the victims are doing so well now. We took their side 100% and they know we have no further contact with ex-son. Do not worry about what clueless people think of you. </p><p></p><p>I hope your husband understands how serious this is. (((Hugs)))!!!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 599087, member: 1550"] nik, our son was sneaky and crafty too or how could he have gotten away with all he did for three years? I am a stay at home parent and thought I had it all together and saw it all. The kids told me, after he left, that he even fondled MY breasts if I fell asleep in the living room (I am a heavy sleeper). It made them think he was invincible. He set tiny fires in his bedroom in front of the kids and threatened to burn the house down, much like this foster child we knew actually DID do. And he would tell the little ones, "I'm the Devil and even God can't stop me." Remember now these are two very young kids, seven and five, and they saw his evil deeds and believed it. This is how perpetrators scare victims into silence. And the victims are always much younger. He never tried anything with my oldest daughter. He knew she'd have killed him and told all. It is sad that I's first experiences in life made him a Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) kid, which is essentially a child with antisocial personality disorder. And we could go on and on about how he never had a chance and how sad it was that he developed into what he is and that it isn't his fault. I'm sure Ted Bundy had a horrible first three years too. And Charles Manson did. However, once a person has developed into a dangerous, evil being, we have to protect others from that person and not lament at how he is this way or that way because of his upbringing. I would NEVER leave your eighteen month daughter alone. EVER EVER EVER. And you really do need to find out of home placement before this child does irreparable harm to one of you. He is SO MUCH like our ex-son. I'm sure some people who have never lived this think it is horrible that I call him my ex-son and never saw him again, even after he had penetrating sex with his five year old sister. I can not relate to those people other than to say you kinda had to be there...I knew I needed to save the victims and not make the victims feel I was aiding and comforting their abuser. I think that's partly why both of the victims are doing so well now. We took their side 100% and they know we have no further contact with ex-son. Do not worry about what clueless people think of you. I hope your husband understands how serious this is. (((Hugs)))!!!! [/QUOTE]
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