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<blockquote data-quote="Liahona" data-source="post: 599092"><p>I was worried about the staff at the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) not seeing that side of him, but no one can keep it together for 24/7/365. My difficult child 1 has a very long honeymoon period (6 months) but they started seeing behaviors within a month. It was like intensive therapy for him all day long. </p><p></p><p>There will be tdocs who believe him. difficult child 1 had one tell us its was all our fault and he was an angel. We never went back to that one. You might have to fire a few. There are some really clueless people out there, but there are some really good ones too.</p><p></p><p>difficult child 1 is very sneaky, too. It got to the point that if someone cried around him he got punished for hurting them. At the time my other kids weren't verbal enough to talk and tell us what happened. He would complain it wasn't fair. My response would be that he has to earn our trust and based on his past behavior I didn't trust him. He would still argue and get defensive and then the truth would somewhat come out as he would try to defend his actions (that I wasn't sure he did in the first place.) All most always the punishment was well earned. </p><p></p><p>His punishment was to be a shadow. This means he has to be in my line of sight; not in the same room, not standing next to me or right behind me. I have to be able to see him (not out of the corner of my eye either) at all times and it was his job to make sure he stayed visible. There were times I was just worn out and couldn't do it anymore. Those times he went into his room (alarm on). Oh, in case you are tempted, (I was) you could get in trouble with cps for locking him in his bedroom, so don't put a padlock on his door. </p><p></p><p>You are so lucky to have the support of a few friends. Not all of us do here.</p><p></p><p>Yeah, even though they knew it was coming my extended family was very hurt difficult child 1 went to Residential Treatment Center (RTC). And x took us back to court, but then x has more contact with difficult child 1 than biomom does Ian. </p><p></p><p>Oh and your husband might have to be the one to actually sign all the papers to put Ian in to Residential Treatment Center (RTC) because he is custodial parent, and it feels like the worst day of your life; like your child is lost forever. But its not. He isn't lost forever. Its just the beginning of recovery. (At least it was for us.)</p><p></p><p>Good luck getting him admitted.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Liahona, post: 599092"] I was worried about the staff at the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) not seeing that side of him, but no one can keep it together for 24/7/365. My difficult child 1 has a very long honeymoon period (6 months) but they started seeing behaviors within a month. It was like intensive therapy for him all day long. There will be tdocs who believe him. difficult child 1 had one tell us its was all our fault and he was an angel. We never went back to that one. You might have to fire a few. There are some really clueless people out there, but there are some really good ones too. difficult child 1 is very sneaky, too. It got to the point that if someone cried around him he got punished for hurting them. At the time my other kids weren't verbal enough to talk and tell us what happened. He would complain it wasn't fair. My response would be that he has to earn our trust and based on his past behavior I didn't trust him. He would still argue and get defensive and then the truth would somewhat come out as he would try to defend his actions (that I wasn't sure he did in the first place.) All most always the punishment was well earned. His punishment was to be a shadow. This means he has to be in my line of sight; not in the same room, not standing next to me or right behind me. I have to be able to see him (not out of the corner of my eye either) at all times and it was his job to make sure he stayed visible. There were times I was just worn out and couldn't do it anymore. Those times he went into his room (alarm on). Oh, in case you are tempted, (I was) you could get in trouble with cps for locking him in his bedroom, so don't put a padlock on his door. You are so lucky to have the support of a few friends. Not all of us do here. Yeah, even though they knew it was coming my extended family was very hurt difficult child 1 went to Residential Treatment Center (RTC). And x took us back to court, but then x has more contact with difficult child 1 than biomom does Ian. Oh and your husband might have to be the one to actually sign all the papers to put Ian in to Residential Treatment Center (RTC) because he is custodial parent, and it feels like the worst day of your life; like your child is lost forever. But its not. He isn't lost forever. Its just the beginning of recovery. (At least it was for us.) Good luck getting him admitted. [/QUOTE]
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