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PLEASE help me with our 12 year old son!
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 599421" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I would like to add something to Terry's comment as she is usually right on the money, but not in this case.</p><p></p><p>Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) kids do not do things impulsiviely and regret them later. They do them after thinking about them and have no regrets at all because they lack any/all ability to care about other people. People are just an ends to a means. Dad gives me money. Mom bakes me cookies. The younger kids are here and if I feel like it, I will torment them or sexually perp on them. And scare them. I'm angry so I'll burn the house down, but wcan't understand why everyone is so upset. What's the big deal? That's Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD). If your son has a conscience, he doesn't have full blown Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD). Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) kids learn in the crib that people are untrustworthy and only they can take care of their needs and it continues on from there, to varying degrees. Yours seems very severe. If he learns how to dismantle the alarm, it will be useless. I'd use a videocamera, however, as stated, ours DID learn how to break it. by the way, not a medication in the world exists that can give a child a conscience, stop the child from acted out sexually, or from killing animals and hurting people. In fact, since medication trials can make certain kids worse, you never know. medications could amp him up and make him even more dangerous. </p><p></p><p>The only real way to protect your kids is to get him out of the house. He will not miss you. He may be mad that his comfort was disrupted, and that could make him dangerous in the future, which is why we made dang sure that nobody ever told our ex-son where we moved. </p><p></p><p>If this kid already squeezed a hamster to death, he is not going in the right direction. We found out that our ex-son had killed neighbor's animals, but we didn't find out until our kids told us after he left. He also tried to perp on an epileptic, non-verbal child in school. Everyone thought he was so sweet to befriend this child who had no other friends. Of course, ex-son always smiled brilliantly for the teachers and opened doors for them and said please and thank you.</p><p></p><p>I would do all I could to find a place for him where he has no access to your babies and your pets. You have been warned. Sorry to be so jaded, but this child doesn't seem "right" and with his early years...you got him after he was probably already damaged. It is not your fault. (((Hugs))).</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 599421, member: 1550"] I would like to add something to Terry's comment as she is usually right on the money, but not in this case. Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) kids do not do things impulsiviely and regret them later. They do them after thinking about them and have no regrets at all because they lack any/all ability to care about other people. People are just an ends to a means. Dad gives me money. Mom bakes me cookies. The younger kids are here and if I feel like it, I will torment them or sexually perp on them. And scare them. I'm angry so I'll burn the house down, but wcan't understand why everyone is so upset. What's the big deal? That's Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD). If your son has a conscience, he doesn't have full blown Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD). Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) kids learn in the crib that people are untrustworthy and only they can take care of their needs and it continues on from there, to varying degrees. Yours seems very severe. If he learns how to dismantle the alarm, it will be useless. I'd use a videocamera, however, as stated, ours DID learn how to break it. by the way, not a medication in the world exists that can give a child a conscience, stop the child from acted out sexually, or from killing animals and hurting people. In fact, since medication trials can make certain kids worse, you never know. medications could amp him up and make him even more dangerous. The only real way to protect your kids is to get him out of the house. He will not miss you. He may be mad that his comfort was disrupted, and that could make him dangerous in the future, which is why we made dang sure that nobody ever told our ex-son where we moved. If this kid already squeezed a hamster to death, he is not going in the right direction. We found out that our ex-son had killed neighbor's animals, but we didn't find out until our kids told us after he left. He also tried to perp on an epileptic, non-verbal child in school. Everyone thought he was so sweet to befriend this child who had no other friends. Of course, ex-son always smiled brilliantly for the teachers and opened doors for them and said please and thank you. I would do all I could to find a place for him where he has no access to your babies and your pets. You have been warned. Sorry to be so jaded, but this child doesn't seem "right" and with his early years...you got him after he was probably already damaged. It is not your fault. (((Hugs))). [/QUOTE]
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