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<blockquote data-quote="Ktllc" data-source="post: 437600" data-attributes="member: 11847"><p>We aere all here to support one another, even if we sometimes face different issues we have all something in common: we understand what it is to deal with a different, very difficult child. You are doing the right thing by seeking all the help you can. </p><p>I'd like to note that, myself is quite a strict parent as well but, like you said, it sometimes seems to not work with my difficult child... I have done a lot of observing and listening his therapist advice and came to realise that my expextation (although resonable) are sometimes just too high for him. Let me give you an exemple: if you ask a 4 year if he wants x or z for snack, you would expect for him to give an answer. My difficult child, always says no thank you. Then I serve his brother, clean up and tha's when he "decides" he wants something after all. Use to drive me nuts, thinking he does it on purpose. The therapist suggested he might not be able to understand the question, that he just can't process it unless the food is right in front of him. Eversince I have that new knowledge, I put the snack(s) right in front of him and then ask him. No more tantrum or rages over snacks! I'm just at the beginning of our journey with difficult child, but that little snack exemple gives me hope: if I learn to understand him and his way of thinking, we might just restore some peace in the family. Keep learning and move forward in the process of testing and evaluation (although I know how the wait for an appointment can excrutiating!). Welcome, you have found a wonderful place!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Ktllc, post: 437600, member: 11847"] We aere all here to support one another, even if we sometimes face different issues we have all something in common: we understand what it is to deal with a different, very difficult child. You are doing the right thing by seeking all the help you can. I'd like to note that, myself is quite a strict parent as well but, like you said, it sometimes seems to not work with my difficult child... I have done a lot of observing and listening his therapist advice and came to realise that my expextation (although resonable) are sometimes just too high for him. Let me give you an exemple: if you ask a 4 year if he wants x or z for snack, you would expect for him to give an answer. My difficult child, always says no thank you. Then I serve his brother, clean up and tha's when he "decides" he wants something after all. Use to drive me nuts, thinking he does it on purpose. The therapist suggested he might not be able to understand the question, that he just can't process it unless the food is right in front of him. Eversince I have that new knowledge, I put the snack(s) right in front of him and then ask him. No more tantrum or rages over snacks! I'm just at the beginning of our journey with difficult child, but that little snack exemple gives me hope: if I learn to understand him and his way of thinking, we might just restore some peace in the family. Keep learning and move forward in the process of testing and evaluation (although I know how the wait for an appointment can excrutiating!). Welcome, you have found a wonderful place! [/QUOTE]
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