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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 649716" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Sending hugs and healing for your battered and bruised heart. I know exactly how much it hurts to have family turn you away when you need even the simplest help from them, and how much it hurts to hear their idiotic justification for not being able to give you even the most basic of kind words. Rather than to be kind, or even decent, to you, they throw very painful and hurtful words at you in the hopes htat you will think yourself less and think that they are more.</p><p></p><p>Don't let them succeed with this. Of course the words hurt. The idiot who thought up the phrase that "Sticks and stones can break my bones but words can never hurt me" was a bully justifying his horrible behavior, in my opinion. A teacher Jess had corrected the phrase and it sticks with me: "Sticks and stones can break my bones but words can hurt forever." Your family knows this and they are using words to maintain their sense of power and superiority. After all, if they can still tell you how to do things then their family isn't as messed up as they are afraid it is. That is their thought process and that is why it is so important to them that you (and your family) be 'less than" in their eyes.</p><p></p><p>All it does is make them feel worse, but they cannot see it. YOU can though. From this point on, don't ever rely on them for anything but hurtful things. Don't waste your time or energy on them. If they call, treat them like any other acquaintance. Nothing more or less. Then devote yourself to things that benefit you and your family.</p><p></p><p>Why not spend some time and energy looking into your rights as a grandparent? You may be able to get visitation even if your son cannot. Don't push into the mother's relationship with her boyfriend or your son. Just concentrate on the baby and supporting her as a good mother in whatever ways you can with-o upsetting her. </p><p></p><p>Let your son know you support him in his positive steps. The Salvation Army can be amazing and very supportive. If you want to feel connected to your son but you cannot physically be close to him, call the Salvation Army in your area and see if you can volunteer for a couple of hours here and there. Or see if a hospital in your area needs volunteers. If you cannot see grandbaby, maybe volunteer to help at a neonatal unit or in a children's hospital.</p><p></p><p>Dn't spend time or energy on your unsupportive family. They are clearly not going to help you, and it sure sounds like they cannot cope with their own lives. If they could they wouldn't be supporting their own addicted adult children, Know what I mean?? Know that you have family here, and that we are always here for you!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 649716, member: 1233"] Sending hugs and healing for your battered and bruised heart. I know exactly how much it hurts to have family turn you away when you need even the simplest help from them, and how much it hurts to hear their idiotic justification for not being able to give you even the most basic of kind words. Rather than to be kind, or even decent, to you, they throw very painful and hurtful words at you in the hopes htat you will think yourself less and think that they are more. Don't let them succeed with this. Of course the words hurt. The idiot who thought up the phrase that "Sticks and stones can break my bones but words can never hurt me" was a bully justifying his horrible behavior, in my opinion. A teacher Jess had corrected the phrase and it sticks with me: "Sticks and stones can break my bones but words can hurt forever." Your family knows this and they are using words to maintain their sense of power and superiority. After all, if they can still tell you how to do things then their family isn't as messed up as they are afraid it is. That is their thought process and that is why it is so important to them that you (and your family) be 'less than" in their eyes. All it does is make them feel worse, but they cannot see it. YOU can though. From this point on, don't ever rely on them for anything but hurtful things. Don't waste your time or energy on them. If they call, treat them like any other acquaintance. Nothing more or less. Then devote yourself to things that benefit you and your family. Why not spend some time and energy looking into your rights as a grandparent? You may be able to get visitation even if your son cannot. Don't push into the mother's relationship with her boyfriend or your son. Just concentrate on the baby and supporting her as a good mother in whatever ways you can with-o upsetting her. Let your son know you support him in his positive steps. The Salvation Army can be amazing and very supportive. If you want to feel connected to your son but you cannot physically be close to him, call the Salvation Army in your area and see if you can volunteer for a couple of hours here and there. Or see if a hospital in your area needs volunteers. If you cannot see grandbaby, maybe volunteer to help at a neonatal unit or in a children's hospital. Dn't spend time or energy on your unsupportive family. They are clearly not going to help you, and it sure sounds like they cannot cope with their own lives. If they could they wouldn't be supporting their own addicted adult children, Know what I mean?? Know that you have family here, and that we are always here for you! [/QUOTE]
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