I have a daughter who is 32. She is totally depressed, has been diagosed as having BiPolar (BP) and also I believe Borderline (BPD), but at the very least they've said a personality disorder. She has no employment and has extreme difficulty finding a job and if she does, she can't keep it. She tells me she will get dressed and sit there and can't make herself go to work. She lives in total squallor....bathes maybe once every few weeks, washes hair about the same. She has four dogs and you can smell her place from outside. The only reason she has any living arrangement is because the landlord passed away and the little trailer really probably would be condemned if anyone saw or inspected it. She lives in a really small town. There are maybe two places that occasionally are hiring but they will not hire her. She has a car that is surprisingly still running. I've almost bankrupted myself trying to get her on her feet. It's the same merry-go-round and I know it..I give her money for gas to go to a job interview and I never really know if she goes or not. She tells me she goes all over town to look for a job and I don't believe her. She has food stamps and that's the only assistance she gets. This vicious circle has to end but I don't know how to make it stop. If she has no gas, she will never get anywhere to try to find the job that she won't go to anyway. She also refuses to take any medication. She did try that route several times and had bad experiences and refuses it again. She's been in in-patient treatment centers at least four times as an adult and once for 30 days when insurance actually did that, when she was young. She at one point had insurance through her husband who is in the military but he was discharged, he's in jail, she has no insurance. The in-patient even when she had insurance was a joke...stabilize her in three days, go home. She always threatens to kill herself and always has so I see that hopefully still as a ploy, but she tells me if I take her to a mental facility she will just lie to them and they'll say she's stable and let her out in three days. The only option she has at this point is the state mental facility. I just can't bear the thought of her living in this trailer, absolutely nothing to do, no a/c, hotter than heck, filthy, dog and oh, I forgot the cat, waste more than likely all over the floor. She will never become not depressed in this situation. I have issues with depression as well and some days I can't force myself to do anything and I in the back of my mind wonder if this is how she is all the time, how can I just leave her in this situation. I know the money isn't helping her but I'm now to the point that I'm wonder if I call some state agency....although several years ago I called so many state agencys and found very little help, but if she was a person with a physical illness I wouldn't let her there in that filth and try to force her to get better. I can't help but make that comparison in my mind. The rent on her place is cheaper than you could imagine and yes, I do pay that. My thought was to pay that until she can get disability, if she can get disabilty, but I've been told she probably could. Just need to talk I guess. We had a horrible blow out the other day where she nailed me with every mistake I ever made and of course blamed everything on me and the I don't care speech, and today we went through another different drama, her asking me for money and me giving in yet again...needs gas for the job that never comes, how do I expect her to get better if she has nothing to do at all, no tv, no friends, nowhere to go, nothing. I can see the circle but don't know how to stop. I think she needs major help. I do think that if I can force myself to stop giving her money she may make a total turnaround but logistically I don't see how she'll get anywhere to work...she would have to walk 20 miles to a place that may have a job. No phone, either.