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<blockquote data-quote="jaeco" data-source="post: 290700" data-attributes="member: 1576"><p>I'm soaking all this in trying to build my strength for this battle, and it will be a battle, I know. I went through trying to find income-based therapy or any help for her at all and exhausted myself in the process. I did find several places but they really were pretty unenthused and not so helpful. TN is not loaded with resources. Her primary care doctor retired and other than that I'm trying to think of anyone she's seen. It's been awhile. There was a therapist that was my daughter's caseworker at one of the facilities and she left there and went into private practice and I went to her for awhile. She might help. She also gave me the name of a man who helps with the disability filing. I realize he takes a cut but if I understand correctly he has more of a success rate in knowing the workings of applying for disability....that you pay his percentage, versus the alternative of perhaps a higher percentage of being denied and going through a lengthy appeal so am wondering if anyone has experience with that. I can't think clearly with the day-to-day barrage of calls, etc. I've had two calls already this morning: needs gas money for going to Goodwill to sign in and get job referrals. Should have had gas money from yesterday. I believe Goodwill is like voc rehab and if you don't follow their guidelines you are disqualified for a year. I cannot make her do these things and I know that yet on some level logic tells me she has to get to Goodwill. If I stop working today...not going to do that...but if I stop working today and do that and take her there, still she will more than likely not follow through at another avenue. I need to stop trying to keep her from being -- from being what?? Herself? You are right that I am no better than she is and in fact have probably kept her in this shape by my pathetic attempts to save her from herself. I need to have no contact with her since she refuses to respect my wishes. In any conversation she soon will talk over me, yell....just control the situation. Her father is penniless....does live with his wife but he's never been able to keep a job and he and my daughter rarely talk. When they do talk she ends up almost being arrested or some other issue..on Father's Day she talked to him and ended the day by cutting her arm with a butcher knife and landed in the emergency room. I'm going to try to get myself together and try to organize a plan after I regroup.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="jaeco, post: 290700, member: 1576"] I'm soaking all this in trying to build my strength for this battle, and it will be a battle, I know. I went through trying to find income-based therapy or any help for her at all and exhausted myself in the process. I did find several places but they really were pretty unenthused and not so helpful. TN is not loaded with resources. Her primary care doctor retired and other than that I'm trying to think of anyone she's seen. It's been awhile. There was a therapist that was my daughter's caseworker at one of the facilities and she left there and went into private practice and I went to her for awhile. She might help. She also gave me the name of a man who helps with the disability filing. I realize he takes a cut but if I understand correctly he has more of a success rate in knowing the workings of applying for disability....that you pay his percentage, versus the alternative of perhaps a higher percentage of being denied and going through a lengthy appeal so am wondering if anyone has experience with that. I can't think clearly with the day-to-day barrage of calls, etc. I've had two calls already this morning: needs gas money for going to Goodwill to sign in and get job referrals. Should have had gas money from yesterday. I believe Goodwill is like voc rehab and if you don't follow their guidelines you are disqualified for a year. I cannot make her do these things and I know that yet on some level logic tells me she has to get to Goodwill. If I stop working today...not going to do that...but if I stop working today and do that and take her there, still she will more than likely not follow through at another avenue. I need to stop trying to keep her from being -- from being what?? Herself? You are right that I am no better than she is and in fact have probably kept her in this shape by my pathetic attempts to save her from herself. I need to have no contact with her since she refuses to respect my wishes. In any conversation she soon will talk over me, yell....just control the situation. Her father is penniless....does live with his wife but he's never been able to keep a job and he and my daughter rarely talk. When they do talk she ends up almost being arrested or some other issue..on Father's Day she talked to him and ended the day by cutting her arm with a butcher knife and landed in the emergency room. I'm going to try to get myself together and try to organize a plan after I regroup. [/QUOTE]
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