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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 290803" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Ok, this is the difference between a obviously physical disorder and a brain disorder, like bipolar, which is also physical in nature.</p><p></p><p>MOST people who are ill want to be as independent as possible and do the best they can. Now if they truly can't drive a car, it's fine to give them a ride, but your daughter can (and I have to wonder who paid for the car and who is paying for the insurance?) Your daughter is physically able to make phone calls, get SSI, call social services, attend her appointments (is there bus service so she doesn't need gas?) and take her medication. She is capable of seeing a psychiatrist at a low cost clinic and talking to a therapist. She just is choosing not to do it. And the older she gets being unable to do so little as to make a phone call to qualify for SSI, the more helpless she will become. What happens when you are gone? Will she be homeless? She needs to learn how to cope with her disorder. All of us do. </p><p>Bipolar is not caused by bad parenting. It's genetic in nature. You didn't cause it and have no need to feel guilty about it. Your daughter is 32 years old. Look at my son's bio below. He is now 31 and has a mood disorder, severe Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) and anxiety. He is married, works full time, and has a son. Lots of folks who are like your daughter deal with our disablities and become independent. You aren't letting her. I think Detachment 101 would be a good place to start. You are too enmeshed with her and she's too old to be so dependent on you. (((Hugs))) I don't mean to be tough of you, but, truly, sometimes less is actually more.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 290803, member: 1550"] Ok, this is the difference between a obviously physical disorder and a brain disorder, like bipolar, which is also physical in nature. MOST people who are ill want to be as independent as possible and do the best they can. Now if they truly can't drive a car, it's fine to give them a ride, but your daughter can (and I have to wonder who paid for the car and who is paying for the insurance?) Your daughter is physically able to make phone calls, get SSI, call social services, attend her appointments (is there bus service so she doesn't need gas?) and take her medication. She is capable of seeing a psychiatrist at a low cost clinic and talking to a therapist. She just is choosing not to do it. And the older she gets being unable to do so little as to make a phone call to qualify for SSI, the more helpless she will become. What happens when you are gone? Will she be homeless? She needs to learn how to cope with her disorder. All of us do. Bipolar is not caused by bad parenting. It's genetic in nature. You didn't cause it and have no need to feel guilty about it. Your daughter is 32 years old. Look at my son's bio below. He is now 31 and has a mood disorder, severe Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) and anxiety. He is married, works full time, and has a son. Lots of folks who are like your daughter deal with our disablities and become independent. You aren't letting her. I think Detachment 101 would be a good place to start. You are too enmeshed with her and she's too old to be so dependent on you. (((Hugs))) I don't mean to be tough of you, but, truly, sometimes less is actually more. [/QUOTE]
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