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<blockquote data-quote="Fran" data-source="post: 66030" data-attributes="member: 3"><p>Do you really think that if you did something different he would stop raging? I don't think so. </p><p>You are the trigger because you are his mom. I am also. I kept wondering what and how I could change but eventually I just decided I could only change so much of who I am. I learned different parenting techniques. I learned when to get help.</p><p></p><p>My husband traveled quite a bit so it was always me dealing with things. If my husband came home and was disapproving of how I handle things, well.. it would be fair to say that maybe husband can take difficult child with him on his trips. I did the best I could, if husband has a better idea then I was open. I'm still waiting for his better idea. </p><p></p><p>When you look for help, keep your focus on the goal which is to get difficult child stable and to be able to live a day without tears. Doesn't seem to be too much to ask.</p><p></p><p>I understand everyone has a different level of comfort with mental illness, police and hospitals. I sort of threw it all out. It made dealing with difficult child that much harder. I couldn't keep up the pretense. </p><p>My child at times was a raving mad man and I was two steps behind him in the raving dept. He wasn't that way all the time but when he was not doing well he was awful and life was truly a burden. It isn't a measure of love if and when you call for help. It's doing what is necessary. </p><p>Anyhow, that's how I thought and how I got through some tough times.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Fran, post: 66030, member: 3"] Do you really think that if you did something different he would stop raging? I don't think so. You are the trigger because you are his mom. I am also. I kept wondering what and how I could change but eventually I just decided I could only change so much of who I am. I learned different parenting techniques. I learned when to get help. My husband traveled quite a bit so it was always me dealing with things. If my husband came home and was disapproving of how I handle things, well.. it would be fair to say that maybe husband can take difficult child with him on his trips. I did the best I could, if husband has a better idea then I was open. I'm still waiting for his better idea. When you look for help, keep your focus on the goal which is to get difficult child stable and to be able to live a day without tears. Doesn't seem to be too much to ask. I understand everyone has a different level of comfort with mental illness, police and hospitals. I sort of threw it all out. It made dealing with difficult child that much harder. I couldn't keep up the pretense. My child at times was a raving mad man and I was two steps behind him in the raving dept. He wasn't that way all the time but when he was not doing well he was awful and life was truly a burden. It isn't a measure of love if and when you call for help. It's doing what is necessary. Anyhow, that's how I thought and how I got through some tough times. [/QUOTE]
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