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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 225207" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>Thanks everyone! We had our family meeting then visitation today. I don't think difficult child is exactly living by the northern light just yet, unfortunately. He still is talking a lot about those two 17 yo's, which is good. I did start talking to him about seeing potential in others but when I started to say that I saw that in him, he stopped me and said "I know- I know what you are going to say". And, I think he does <em>know</em> it in his head, I just don't think he believes it or feels it yet. He went on and on about how surprised he was that his room mate said he (difficult child) was "friendly" in group when they each had to say something nice about another kid. difficult child acted shocked. I said "difficult child, you ARE nice and friendly to people- people who know you like you". difficult child said "well, maybe, but I didn't think another kid thought that".</p><p></p><p>Lord help me- and I'm not even religious enough to ask for that....</p><p></p><p>We both laid all our home problems out on the table though for the social worker. Unfortunately, she was a fill-in (maybe the regular one got sick or something). Anyway, I'm sure all the problems we revealed threw a big wrench in her discharge plan. LOL! She said she will have the regular sw call me. I told her about the couple of options that I'd heard about that might lead to some help. She pretty much shot those down for one reason or another.</p><p></p><p>It seems like I call and call people, hear an idea that seems like it might work, try to pursue it and someone else shoots it down. This has happened over and over. difficult child's therapist was doing group therapy at the psychiatric hospital today. He had planned to talk to difficult child a few mins alone after group, but our family meeting started shortly after group started, so that didn't work out either. The day just wasn't as productive as I'd hoped it would be.</p><p></p><p>Oh, well. difficult child and I ate from the cafeteria together and walked through the hospital, then just sat and chatted a while. At least that seemed to go well. And, getting everything out in the open at the family meeting seemed to help him see the reality of things a bit better I think. But, difficult child started talking to me about smoking and says he hears that some vitamin can make a person high and just general bs stuff that I don't want to hear. I don't know if he does that for the shock factor or if he is in such a habit of talking to other kids that way, thinking it will impress them, that he forgets that he's saying those things to his mother- and his mother is NOT impressed. I told that for someone who said he wanted out of the psychiatric hospital an awful lot, he's not making me feel too comfortable about bringing him home.</p><p></p><p>I'm even more impressed about the 17yo addict. difficult child says the boy is reading NA books all the time and is really trying hard. He said he has things lined up to talk to his school and that his parents said they would get him out of psychiatric hospital, but he told them no. I guess the girlfriend decided to stick with him, as long as he's seeking treatment and she brought him a book about hope. difficult child says the kid really means it because he said his dad does drugs and the boy is trying to develop a plan for himself to stay straight even though his parents don't get it. That's a rough road- I hope the boy can do it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 225207, member: 3699"] Thanks everyone! We had our family meeting then visitation today. I don't think difficult child is exactly living by the northern light just yet, unfortunately. He still is talking a lot about those two 17 yo's, which is good. I did start talking to him about seeing potential in others but when I started to say that I saw that in him, he stopped me and said "I know- I know what you are going to say". And, I think he does [I]know[/I] it in his head, I just don't think he believes it or feels it yet. He went on and on about how surprised he was that his room mate said he (difficult child) was "friendly" in group when they each had to say something nice about another kid. difficult child acted shocked. I said "difficult child, you ARE nice and friendly to people- people who know you like you". difficult child said "well, maybe, but I didn't think another kid thought that". Lord help me- and I'm not even religious enough to ask for that.... We both laid all our home problems out on the table though for the social worker. Unfortunately, she was a fill-in (maybe the regular one got sick or something). Anyway, I'm sure all the problems we revealed threw a big wrench in her discharge plan. LOL! She said she will have the regular sw call me. I told her about the couple of options that I'd heard about that might lead to some help. She pretty much shot those down for one reason or another. It seems like I call and call people, hear an idea that seems like it might work, try to pursue it and someone else shoots it down. This has happened over and over. difficult child's therapist was doing group therapy at the psychiatric hospital today. He had planned to talk to difficult child a few mins alone after group, but our family meeting started shortly after group started, so that didn't work out either. The day just wasn't as productive as I'd hoped it would be. Oh, well. difficult child and I ate from the cafeteria together and walked through the hospital, then just sat and chatted a while. At least that seemed to go well. And, getting everything out in the open at the family meeting seemed to help him see the reality of things a bit better I think. But, difficult child started talking to me about smoking and says he hears that some vitamin can make a person high and just general bs stuff that I don't want to hear. I don't know if he does that for the shock factor or if he is in such a habit of talking to other kids that way, thinking it will impress them, that he forgets that he's saying those things to his mother- and his mother is NOT impressed. I told that for someone who said he wanted out of the psychiatric hospital an awful lot, he's not making me feel too comfortable about bringing him home. I'm even more impressed about the 17yo addict. difficult child says the boy is reading NA books all the time and is really trying hard. He said he has things lined up to talk to his school and that his parents said they would get him out of psychiatric hospital, but he told them no. I guess the girlfriend decided to stick with him, as long as he's seeking treatment and she brought him a book about hope. difficult child says the kid really means it because he said his dad does drugs and the boy is trying to develop a plan for himself to stay straight even though his parents don't get it. That's a rough road- I hope the boy can do it. [/QUOTE]
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