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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 67078" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Hi there, hon. I'm ALWAYS online...lol. I work online so I take my breaks by going on the board. I'll tell you what I'd do, and you can take it with a grain of salt. It's up to you.</p><p>Even my easy child kids hated cleaning their rooms and rarely did it without a hasell. To make it easier for myself, I'd let her live in a sty if she doesn't mind. If it's that big a disaster, she probably feels overwhelmed even if it's broken down and the result if she rages and doesn't get it down and YOU suffer because, for whatever reason, she is going to dig in her heels on this. If I was feeling so poorly that I had to sleep by the air conditioner, I would shut the door and let her deal with the dirt. I'm not saying others will agree with me, but a clean room for the kid wouldn't be high on my list of what I'd stress over. My kids will respond to discipline over cleaning up, however they also leave trails of paper and food (ick) etc. The only difference is that your child refuses to pick it up, and while it IS a problem, since it's causing you so much stress, I'd let it go, at least for now. When she finally does have to do it, my guess is an adult will have to stand in the room with her and help her. Clearly, though, she's not stable now and isn't going to listen.</p><p>When she blabs about "Daddy" I'd act like she didn't say anything. I'd completely ignore it and not let her use that as a trigger for you.</p><p>Finally, I'd do all I could to take care of ME. It's not YOUR fault that this child seems to be running things. She's a very difficult child and anyone raising her would feel the same way. Since she is obviously not doing well, maybe you can take her a new doctor who can perhaps get a fresh perspective on her diagnosis. and treatment. (((Hugs))) and please calm down. A dirty room for now won't be the end of the world.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 67078, member: 1550"] Hi there, hon. I'm ALWAYS online...lol. I work online so I take my breaks by going on the board. I'll tell you what I'd do, and you can take it with a grain of salt. It's up to you. Even my easy child kids hated cleaning their rooms and rarely did it without a hasell. To make it easier for myself, I'd let her live in a sty if she doesn't mind. If it's that big a disaster, she probably feels overwhelmed even if it's broken down and the result if she rages and doesn't get it down and YOU suffer because, for whatever reason, she is going to dig in her heels on this. If I was feeling so poorly that I had to sleep by the air conditioner, I would shut the door and let her deal with the dirt. I'm not saying others will agree with me, but a clean room for the kid wouldn't be high on my list of what I'd stress over. My kids will respond to discipline over cleaning up, however they also leave trails of paper and food (ick) etc. The only difference is that your child refuses to pick it up, and while it IS a problem, since it's causing you so much stress, I'd let it go, at least for now. When she finally does have to do it, my guess is an adult will have to stand in the room with her and help her. Clearly, though, she's not stable now and isn't going to listen. When she blabs about "Daddy" I'd act like she didn't say anything. I'd completely ignore it and not let her use that as a trigger for you. Finally, I'd do all I could to take care of ME. It's not YOUR fault that this child seems to be running things. She's a very difficult child and anyone raising her would feel the same way. Since she is obviously not doing well, maybe you can take her a new doctor who can perhaps get a fresh perspective on her diagnosis. and treatment. (((Hugs))) and please calm down. A dirty room for now won't be the end of the world. [/QUOTE]
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