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<blockquote data-quote="LittleDudesMom" data-source="post: 67272" data-attributes="member: 805"><p>I have found, for me, that it's easier to keep it clean than let it get messy! If you let it get messy, it's more overwhelming and you are more in a mindset to just leave it than tackle it. </p><p></p><p>One thing you might want to try hon is just sitting in there with her and guiding her. That's what I still do with difficult child and he's going to bve 12 this weel. He does much better when I'm there saying "ok, get the legos out of the way first, then you'll have a place to walk." That, and he learns what clean up really means - rather than the stuff the drawers, closets and under the bed method!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!</p><p></p><p>I don't allow food upstairs in the bedrooms unless the kids are really sick then they get a tray. That helps eliminate some of the mess that could accumulate. Also, my kids are trained (after many years)to pick up everything that is theirs around the house before going upstairs to bed. One day a week, for easy child it's Saturday and difficult child it's Sunday, they have to have their rooms totally cleaned up - no exceptions.</p><p></p><p>And, I'm a lot meaner than Marg. My easy child has been doing her own laundry for a couple years. One too many times was I finding myself cleaning what wasn't dirty, just tried on. So I told her she was responsible for her own laundry. I actually feel like this is good for her. She had to show her best bud, last summer at 15, how to use the washer/dryer so she could wash her uniform for work! It's beyond me how a kid could reach 15 and not know how to operate a washer.</p><p></p><p>Anyway, baby steps is the way to go I think. You are not going to be able to make a big change in her attitude and willingness to clean up right away. She's not been having to comply for awhile so it's not going to be easy. Also, at age 6, she's a little young to be tackling a really overwhelmingly messy room by herself. It probably seems like an "eternity" job to her. Take little steps every day. Remain firm, tackle that which bothers you the most first.</p><p></p><p>And finally, breath deep and stay strong. You can make a change in her for the better by sticking to your guns and remaining strong.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="LittleDudesMom, post: 67272, member: 805"] I have found, for me, that it's easier to keep it clean than let it get messy! If you let it get messy, it's more overwhelming and you are more in a mindset to just leave it than tackle it. One thing you might want to try hon is just sitting in there with her and guiding her. That's what I still do with difficult child and he's going to bve 12 this weel. He does much better when I'm there saying "ok, get the legos out of the way first, then you'll have a place to walk." That, and he learns what clean up really means - rather than the stuff the drawers, closets and under the bed method!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I don't allow food upstairs in the bedrooms unless the kids are really sick then they get a tray. That helps eliminate some of the mess that could accumulate. Also, my kids are trained (after many years)to pick up everything that is theirs around the house before going upstairs to bed. One day a week, for easy child it's Saturday and difficult child it's Sunday, they have to have their rooms totally cleaned up - no exceptions. And, I'm a lot meaner than Marg. My easy child has been doing her own laundry for a couple years. One too many times was I finding myself cleaning what wasn't dirty, just tried on. So I told her she was responsible for her own laundry. I actually feel like this is good for her. She had to show her best bud, last summer at 15, how to use the washer/dryer so she could wash her uniform for work! It's beyond me how a kid could reach 15 and not know how to operate a washer. Anyway, baby steps is the way to go I think. You are not going to be able to make a big change in her attitude and willingness to clean up right away. She's not been having to comply for awhile so it's not going to be easy. Also, at age 6, she's a little young to be tackling a really overwhelmingly messy room by herself. It probably seems like an "eternity" job to her. Take little steps every day. Remain firm, tackle that which bothers you the most first. And finally, breath deep and stay strong. You can make a change in her for the better by sticking to your guns and remaining strong. [/QUOTE]
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