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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 67274" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>been there done that up to and including kicking myself for the ugly things that spewed out of my mouth out of frustration.</p><p></p><p>I don't know if you read my post of the condition of her room while she was gone but a pigsty was cleaner and more sanitary! However, it has gotten better now that she's returned. The one thing I realized was that even at 20 her room was too overwhelming for her to clean alone. She just didn't have the organizational skills.</p><p></p><p>So, when you're up to it, try again. Brace yourself that you're going to find things in there that are really going to upset you -- either because of the dirtiness or because it is something you treasured that is now dirty or wrecked. As hard as it is, for now let it go. I actually put my damaged things in one box and made my daughter pay for them. When she was little, it was via chores with a list and the value of that chore. Now, it is out of her own money (and, boy, does she HATE to spend her money on my things). Of course, after the two of you clean it, be prepared for it to be a mess in an hour.</p><p></p><p>We did have one day a week for nothing but cleaning her room when she was younger. I tried to make it into different games each time. One time it would be who could put the most clothes in piles (sorted for washing). Basketball into bins for toys, etc. Bonuses for a every green item, etc. It did get the room cleaned and saved a few battles.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 67274, member: 3626"] been there done that up to and including kicking myself for the ugly things that spewed out of my mouth out of frustration. I don't know if you read my post of the condition of her room while she was gone but a pigsty was cleaner and more sanitary! However, it has gotten better now that she's returned. The one thing I realized was that even at 20 her room was too overwhelming for her to clean alone. She just didn't have the organizational skills. So, when you're up to it, try again. Brace yourself that you're going to find things in there that are really going to upset you -- either because of the dirtiness or because it is something you treasured that is now dirty or wrecked. As hard as it is, for now let it go. I actually put my damaged things in one box and made my daughter pay for them. When she was little, it was via chores with a list and the value of that chore. Now, it is out of her own money (and, boy, does she HATE to spend her money on my things). Of course, after the two of you clean it, be prepared for it to be a mess in an hour. We did have one day a week for nothing but cleaning her room when she was younger. I tried to make it into different games each time. One time it would be who could put the most clothes in piles (sorted for washing). Basketball into bins for toys, etc. Bonuses for a every green item, etc. It did get the room cleaned and saved a few battles. [/QUOTE]
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