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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 207138" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>Those are good points DDD. I am mulling it over. I have another "reason" to write a letter, that has nothing to do with any court ordered person doing anything wrong, so maybe I could just add a paragraph in on this subject.</p><p></p><p>Susie, documenting this for my own personal files is a good idea, too.</p><p></p><p>I spoke with difficult child about it this afternoon and agree that I can loosen the reigns a little since he has matured a lot this past year. However, I told him that when it came to parental decisions that I didn't really care what the PO's opinion was, they are my decisions to make. We will still make every effort to follow her requirements regarding the PO rules. He said he understood and that she wasn't his mother. I let him rent a T rated war game but told him that M was still not allowed yet.</p><p></p><p>Pookybear: Based on my experience with difficult child's friends, don't be so sure that another parent wouldn't let a 9yo play these games. difficult child had a friend and his younger brother visit our house when the 2 older ones were about 9 or 10. The younger was around 7 or 8. The boy brought a game and I was shocked to walk into the living room to see the split screen of 2 hunters and it was them hunting each other. I told them to put it up and called the mom, thinking that the boy had taken it from his dad's collection without permission. No, she had bought it for them. Most families are allowing this. When I figured that out is when I asked psychiatrist about it.</p><p></p><p>I should mention, at least with my difficult child, when he isn't stable he has looked up assulat weapons on line before, he has done things that could have cost him his life (I call it indirect suicide), and he has swings of depression and mania. It isn't always that I mind certain things when he is stable, but those images are still with him when he isn't stable. Also, it is nearly impossible to revoke that permission or game or other item when he isn't stable if I've already given it to him to keep.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 207138, member: 3699"] Those are good points DDD. I am mulling it over. I have another "reason" to write a letter, that has nothing to do with any court ordered person doing anything wrong, so maybe I could just add a paragraph in on this subject. Susie, documenting this for my own personal files is a good idea, too. I spoke with difficult child about it this afternoon and agree that I can loosen the reigns a little since he has matured a lot this past year. However, I told him that when it came to parental decisions that I didn't really care what the PO's opinion was, they are my decisions to make. We will still make every effort to follow her requirements regarding the PO rules. He said he understood and that she wasn't his mother. I let him rent a T rated war game but told him that M was still not allowed yet. Pookybear: Based on my experience with difficult child's friends, don't be so sure that another parent wouldn't let a 9yo play these games. difficult child had a friend and his younger brother visit our house when the 2 older ones were about 9 or 10. The younger was around 7 or 8. The boy brought a game and I was shocked to walk into the living room to see the split screen of 2 hunters and it was them hunting each other. I told them to put it up and called the mom, thinking that the boy had taken it from his dad's collection without permission. No, she had bought it for them. Most families are allowing this. When I figured that out is when I asked psychiatrist about it. I should mention, at least with my difficult child, when he isn't stable he has looked up assulat weapons on line before, he has done things that could have cost him his life (I call it indirect suicide), and he has swings of depression and mania. It isn't always that I mind certain things when he is stable, but those images are still with him when he isn't stable. Also, it is nearly impossible to revoke that permission or game or other item when he isn't stable if I've already given it to him to keep. [/QUOTE]
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