Some may recall that difficult child is on probation and I testified in Jan. to the judge about some very personal things regarding my past and family upbringing. During that hearing, difficult child was not in the court room but the PO was, along with the attnys. It was supposed to be closed doors and info was not to be discussed with difficult child or made public. They knew that difficult child was not aware of any of these things. Now, this PO has caused me grief before with trrying to tell me to aloow or not allow certain things for difficult child which were way beyond her scope of duty as a PO. Also, she has always had a tendency to blame me for difficult child's trouble. She seemed much nicer to me since that private hearing, but last week she really rubbed me the wrong way. First, difficult child talked about wanting M rated games that I would not let him get. She said she didn't agree with that and I should let him have some. Then, difficult child said he wanted his cell phone back (I had taken it away earlier this year for good reasons). She said I should work something out so he can have one. difficult child said he thought I was over-protective. She said she thought I was, too, and that she could understand after all I'd been through (which was heading down the road toward that private hearing/discussion). I kept shooting her dirty looks to try to get her to hush. But she said to me well, you have been through a lot so I can see why you are over protective, but I let my step-sons do these things so I think you should start letting difficult child. Would this infuriate you all as much as it has me? Suggestions? difficult child wouldn't go to school today. He isn't doing it out of defiance, I don't think, but it might be considered unexcused. The PO will most definitely blame me for it if it is unexcused. I KNOW the message difficult child getting out of this is that the PO won't bback up my authority, if he does something wrong, it will be me that has to pay the price. Unfortunately, if this has to go before the judge again, it will be both of us paying the price. One of the things that really gets to me- part of my testimony was about how my family would not back up or even support my decisions regarding difficult child and the efforts I was making to keep him on track. They always seemed to try to get difficult child to believe that the problem was just me. The judge ruled in my favor and agreed that I should keep family away from difficult child or monitor his communication with my mother. (There was more to it to cause that). Anyway, I think the judge got the point pretty well. But this PO is doing the exact same thing. I had called her supervisor before over stuff like this and it was just wasted breathe. The GAL said before that she couldn't do anything about it.