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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 11478" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Steph, I know it's a hassle but every time a false claim is lodged and investigated, it buys you more credibility, and the accusers, less. Bring 'em on! And you can always say publicly (while you privately fume) that you're glad that they are prompt to investigate these things because sometimes, in some cases, there could be a problem.</p><p></p><p>Your file should be filling up with unproven false claims. Eventually, whoever is making these accusations is going to get into serious legal trouble, while you will become virtually untouchable.</p><p></p><p>While not involving child welfare, we had a similar problem in our village - a rather nasty, money-hungry person who lived one house away from the waterfront kept making complaints about the almost blind old woman who lived in the old cottage between his house and the beach. He would complain about the noisy parties - she is a social work professor and musicologist, she would have very small groups of a capella singers visit so they could sing, unamplified, together. He complained about the music of her lodger (she played the harp, very quietly, never after 9 pm). Her big trees were a danger, they should be chopped down (to improve his view, no doubt). He complained about everything he could think of, including the state of her cottage, in an attempt to drive her from her property or to have her ordered to pull down her house. If she had left, or had to pull down her cottage, his property would have acquired hers at a cheap rate and he would have extended his holdings forward to the beach front acquiring several million dollars' profit in the process.</p><p></p><p>This man was a senior health professional and "pillar of the community", used to his victims being browbeaten. He used some very nasty tactics, but this old lady's failure to be oppressed by him backfired - he was told by the authorities, in turn, that making one more accusation would land him in court on charges of making vexatious complaints and being a public nuisance. I know this because this old lady is a good friend of mine, she was most amused at his presumption. She may be almost blind, she may be old, but she has been a tub-thumping feminist and activist for years and would not be pushed around by a greedy young upstart, she told me. He has since sold his palatial mansion and moved away - thank goodness.</p><p></p><p>It's surprising, the sort of people who will make vexatious or simply nosy complaints, in the belief that their own high community status and anonymity will protect them. It does not. And wen word gets out (as it often does when the complaints get to t he vexatious stage - such people antagonise other people too, who love to gossip) then they get permanent egg on their faces.</p><p></p><p>My advice - smile sweetly, keep doing what you're doing, and wait. The fireworks display will happen and you will enjoy the show when it does, from your safe vantage point on the sidelines.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 11478, member: 1991"] Steph, I know it's a hassle but every time a false claim is lodged and investigated, it buys you more credibility, and the accusers, less. Bring 'em on! And you can always say publicly (while you privately fume) that you're glad that they are prompt to investigate these things because sometimes, in some cases, there could be a problem. Your file should be filling up with unproven false claims. Eventually, whoever is making these accusations is going to get into serious legal trouble, while you will become virtually untouchable. While not involving child welfare, we had a similar problem in our village - a rather nasty, money-hungry person who lived one house away from the waterfront kept making complaints about the almost blind old woman who lived in the old cottage between his house and the beach. He would complain about the noisy parties - she is a social work professor and musicologist, she would have very small groups of a capella singers visit so they could sing, unamplified, together. He complained about the music of her lodger (she played the harp, very quietly, never after 9 pm). Her big trees were a danger, they should be chopped down (to improve his view, no doubt). He complained about everything he could think of, including the state of her cottage, in an attempt to drive her from her property or to have her ordered to pull down her house. If she had left, or had to pull down her cottage, his property would have acquired hers at a cheap rate and he would have extended his holdings forward to the beach front acquiring several million dollars' profit in the process. This man was a senior health professional and "pillar of the community", used to his victims being browbeaten. He used some very nasty tactics, but this old lady's failure to be oppressed by him backfired - he was told by the authorities, in turn, that making one more accusation would land him in court on charges of making vexatious complaints and being a public nuisance. I know this because this old lady is a good friend of mine, she was most amused at his presumption. She may be almost blind, she may be old, but she has been a tub-thumping feminist and activist for years and would not be pushed around by a greedy young upstart, she told me. He has since sold his palatial mansion and moved away - thank goodness. It's surprising, the sort of people who will make vexatious or simply nosy complaints, in the belief that their own high community status and anonymity will protect them. It does not. And wen word gets out (as it often does when the complaints get to t he vexatious stage - such people antagonise other people too, who love to gossip) then they get permanent egg on their faces. My advice - smile sweetly, keep doing what you're doing, and wait. The fireworks display will happen and you will enjoy the show when it does, from your safe vantage point on the sidelines. Marg [/QUOTE]
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