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Possible ODD in my 16 year old. Wher to start?
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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 507503" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>Hi there! Sorry you had to search us out but isn't it great to find people who get it??</p><p></p><p>She sounds like she has quite an attitude going on but DDD had some good questions, if she has always been like this, there could be some underlying things that are relatively subtle but maybe not addressed fully. Any chance you can have what the equivalent here (usa) is called a neuropsychological evaluation. It is not a regular psychiatric (the medical doctor) or psychologist evaluation... it is a specialty of psychology where they do extra training in how the brain is connected to behaviors. While she is still legally in your authority (is she? not sure of your age laws) you can maybe force it... bye bye computer, and thus skype etc... if she does not comply. </p><p></p><p>Have you ever read the book "The Explosive Child" by Ross Greene? That may be helpful to you... as DDD talked about it helps sort thru priorities and explains why many traditional parenting approaches do not work well for some kids... and it gives ideas to work on them so it is not that anyone is saying this is OK! Just that as parents, we got a differently wired kid who needs a type of parenting that most of us have not been raised with.</p><p></p><p>For those things that are privileges, I agree with TeDo, at our kids' ages it really does need to be clear to them that these things are not givens. It is going to be a rude awakening to them if they think they can just demand a variety of foods where ever they go without it being a true restaurant. I am all for a kid having input into menus when they are being planned... but to refuse what someone offers or prepares... well she will not go hungry... At our house we always allow a Peanut Butter Jelly option which HE must make if he doesn't like what I offer. It makes for no fights. There is no way he is going to mess up our meal plans because we are not that well off! We never say they can just go without food at all but we sure as heck can say they can choose that option or have the only plan B meal that is available (at your house could be PBJ or she can make macaroni and cheese .... those cheap little frozen kinds or whatever is easy and at least holds her over till the next real meal. Not your problem. </p><p></p><p>Well, just wanted to say hi... It is not an easy road having a child who acts in such a rude way. Sorry for your struggles. It will be nice to get to know you, Dee</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 507503, member: 12886"] Hi there! Sorry you had to search us out but isn't it great to find people who get it?? She sounds like she has quite an attitude going on but DDD had some good questions, if she has always been like this, there could be some underlying things that are relatively subtle but maybe not addressed fully. Any chance you can have what the equivalent here (usa) is called a neuropsychological evaluation. It is not a regular psychiatric (the medical doctor) or psychologist evaluation... it is a specialty of psychology where they do extra training in how the brain is connected to behaviors. While she is still legally in your authority (is she? not sure of your age laws) you can maybe force it... bye bye computer, and thus skype etc... if she does not comply. Have you ever read the book "The Explosive Child" by Ross Greene? That may be helpful to you... as DDD talked about it helps sort thru priorities and explains why many traditional parenting approaches do not work well for some kids... and it gives ideas to work on them so it is not that anyone is saying this is OK! Just that as parents, we got a differently wired kid who needs a type of parenting that most of us have not been raised with. For those things that are privileges, I agree with TeDo, at our kids' ages it really does need to be clear to them that these things are not givens. It is going to be a rude awakening to them if they think they can just demand a variety of foods where ever they go without it being a true restaurant. I am all for a kid having input into menus when they are being planned... but to refuse what someone offers or prepares... well she will not go hungry... At our house we always allow a Peanut Butter Jelly option which HE must make if he doesn't like what I offer. It makes for no fights. There is no way he is going to mess up our meal plans because we are not that well off! We never say they can just go without food at all but we sure as heck can say they can choose that option or have the only plan B meal that is available (at your house could be PBJ or she can make macaroni and cheese .... those cheap little frozen kinds or whatever is easy and at least holds her over till the next real meal. Not your problem. Well, just wanted to say hi... It is not an easy road having a child who acts in such a rude way. Sorry for your struggles. It will be nice to get to know you, Dee [/QUOTE]
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