rebelson, my therapist would say that you can't stop him from drinking even if he is so you are just torturing yourself by reading the emails and checking his searches.
As far as the anxiety, direct him back to the experts. He is in IOP for a reason. They should be helping him with this. You can't fix it.
I purposely don't have a facebook and deleted an email account I once shared with my daughter. It really is easier to detach if you don't have access to check up on what your son is posting on social media or searching for on the Internet.
As hard as it is to do, you need to detach and let your son handle his own recovery. That took me two years of therapy to learn.
~Kathy
