Rebelson, I am glad you are out and about. Even just running errands, doing something that isn't attached to them and their drama helps. I hope you make some more time to do things just for you today.
I am glad you know he is safe. I wish him the best in his recovery.
I do understand the obsessively checking where they are, what they said or meant, etc. I sure have been there. I can understand your Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) making it worse, but even without that contributing, I don't think willpower helps us stop trying to check and control, at least not in the long run. We have to find ways to shift our focus.
I hope you and the new counselor click. I have been going back to Al-Anon lately, and that is helping me a lot. It helps to have a place of peace and understanding. Even if just for an hour, it is an hour where my brain takes a break from its endless spin cycle.
I think there is some great advice on this thread. Darkwing, that was an honest and wonderful post. Painful to read because I saw a lot of myself in it. Thank you. Your insight is very much appreciated around here.