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<blockquote data-quote="Kathy813" data-source="post: 693697" data-attributes="member: 1967"><p>rebelson, this is just my opinion. But I think you should tell your son about your access to his account and ask him to change his password.</p><p></p><p>AlAnon follows the same twelve steps as AA. Honesty is key in recovery whether it is AlAnon or AA. So is asking forgiveness. Telling your son what you did and asking his forgiveness would be working the steps. It would also make it impossible for you to keep checking up on him which you can't do on your own due to your Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD).</p><p></p><p>As far as detaching with love, it is a learned process. I have said this before but it took two years of therapy for me to recognize how enmeshed I had become in my daughter's addiction and how co-dependent we were. SWOT is right, though. There was a moment when I finally realized it had to stop. My daughter's car had been impounded after countless other crises of her own making and she called me and said, "Mom, <u>we</u> have a problem. My car has been impounded." Something inside me just snapped and I said, "No, I don't have a problem, my car is in the garage." From then on, I was able to slowly start detaching with help from my therapist. </p><p></p><p>I realize it will be even more difficult for you with your Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) but hopefully your therapist will have suggestions to help you with that.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Kathy813, post: 693697, member: 1967"] rebelson, this is just my opinion. But I think you should tell your son about your access to his account and ask him to change his password. AlAnon follows the same twelve steps as AA. Honesty is key in recovery whether it is AlAnon or AA. So is asking forgiveness. Telling your son what you did and asking his forgiveness would be working the steps. It would also make it impossible for you to keep checking up on him which you can't do on your own due to your Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD). As far as detaching with love, it is a learned process. I have said this before but it took two years of therapy for me to recognize how enmeshed I had become in my daughter's addiction and how co-dependent we were. SWOT is right, though. There was a moment when I finally realized it had to stop. My daughter's car had been impounded after countless other crises of her own making and she called me and said, "Mom, [U]we[/U] have a problem. My car has been impounded." Something inside me just snapped and I said, "No, I don't have a problem, my car is in the garage." From then on, I was able to slowly start detaching with help from my therapist. I realize it will be even more difficult for you with your Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) but hopefully your therapist will have suggestions to help you with that. [/QUOTE]
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