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<blockquote data-quote="HereWeGoAgain" data-source="post: 40160" data-attributes="member: 3485"><p>The thing that bugs me is not so much the wasting of the money, 'though that's bad enough, as the piercing thing. It seems to me like a form of self-mutilation. Even worse is the thought of our little one seeing her mom with the stud in her mouth and asking questions about it. difficult child never went much for tattoos and piercings before -- she has one small tattoo on her ankle, which bothers me not at all -- mostly because the money went for drugs instead, I think. But she's had this thing about tongue-piercing for a long time.</p><p></p><p>I had a battle with her seven or eight years ago about it. This was back when I was consulting and had an apartment up here, and she came to stay with me to get away from her crowd back home (which accomplished nothing since the underlying problem was and is with her, not the losers she hung with; she just found some new losers up here. But I digress.) I came in from work and she asked me, as casually as you please, if I could run her over to Erica's and oh, by the way, stop at this place to get her tongue pierced on the way? I didn't even need to go inside or wait for her, she'd call me when it was done. "Over my dead body", I said. "Fine, I'll walk", she said. I said, "If you do, you won't come back through that door again." I told her it was up to her whether tongue-piercing was more important than a bed, and then walked off my anger for the next three or four hours (in January, in Chicago). While I was gone she destroyed a model ship I had been building. I threw away the pieces and neither one of us ever brought the incident up again.</p><p></p><p>I drove my parents batty with my long hair and tattered jeans and the music I listened too in the 70s. I tell myself I have to tolerate generational differences. But the stuff I did wasn't permanent like a piercing or tattoo. I could change back into a clean-cut kid in a couple of hours with a haircut and a change of clothes. And the music advocated sex and drugs, but not sex and drugs <em>and rape and murder</em> like the gangsta music they listen to now.</p><p></p><p>I feel like telling her that she won't be seeing her daughter unless she takes out the stud (would it have to be cut out? I don't even know.)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="HereWeGoAgain, post: 40160, member: 3485"] The thing that bugs me is not so much the wasting of the money, 'though that's bad enough, as the piercing thing. It seems to me like a form of self-mutilation. Even worse is the thought of our little one seeing her mom with the stud in her mouth and asking questions about it. difficult child never went much for tattoos and piercings before -- she has one small tattoo on her ankle, which bothers me not at all -- mostly because the money went for drugs instead, I think. But she's had this thing about tongue-piercing for a long time. I had a battle with her seven or eight years ago about it. This was back when I was consulting and had an apartment up here, and she came to stay with me to get away from her crowd back home (which accomplished nothing since the underlying problem was and is with her, not the losers she hung with; she just found some new losers up here. But I digress.) I came in from work and she asked me, as casually as you please, if I could run her over to Erica's and oh, by the way, stop at this place to get her tongue pierced on the way? I didn't even need to go inside or wait for her, she'd call me when it was done. "Over my dead body", I said. "Fine, I'll walk", she said. I said, "If you do, you won't come back through that door again." I told her it was up to her whether tongue-piercing was more important than a bed, and then walked off my anger for the next three or four hours (in January, in Chicago). While I was gone she destroyed a model ship I had been building. I threw away the pieces and neither one of us ever brought the incident up again. I drove my parents batty with my long hair and tattered jeans and the music I listened too in the 70s. I tell myself I have to tolerate generational differences. But the stuff I did wasn't permanent like a piercing or tattoo. I could change back into a clean-cut kid in a couple of hours with a haircut and a change of clothes. And the music advocated sex and drugs, but not sex and drugs [i]and rape and murder[/i] like the gangsta music they listen to now. I feel like telling her that she won't be seeing her daughter unless she takes out the stud (would it have to be cut out? I don't even know.) [/QUOTE]
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