What I'm trying to say is he probably figures eventually you will start doing more for him, like paying for things you used to, or giving into things that you put into place because you won't be able to stand the way he's treating you. He probably thinks you'll start sucking up to him eventually. Just let it play out and see what happens.
Detatchment is very difficult but you have to do it to protect your own heart and the rest of your family. I know it doesn't always feel like you, but you are doing a great job.
