Well, Mikey, he probably doesn't much like himself at this point, and it's much easier to aim that dislike in your and your wife's direction than at himself, because looking at himself would mean that he has to change.
Also, if he feels that you and your wife have over-controlled him (as my son feels about his dad and me, and he's right...) this may simply be his way of detaching from that.
Just my 2 cents, judging from my own son, as your son and mine are about the same age, and sound quite alike in many ways.
