"I've finally accepted that the son I knew is gone, never to return. And I grieve for that loss."
The son that you knew IS gone, but that doesn't mean that this sullen teenager is all that you can hope for. I SO understand your grief and I understand your feeling of loss, but recognize that though this is the road he is choosing right now, he can change and hopefully he will.
I realize that right now you and wife have to protect your hearts and you're right to do so, but as someone recently told me "where there is life, there is hope".
Hang on!
