The son you know may be gone right now, but it doesn't mean he will never be back. There is always hope and don't ever give that up. Though I was fortunate enough through even the worst of my difficult child's drug use, we never dealt with a lot of the disrespect and abuse that many of the difficult child's on this board deal out to their families, I thought I had lost my difficult child to drugs forever. I mourned the child I had lost and what he was never going to be, and there are still things I know he could have been and never will be, but he has remained clean for almost 8 months now and though our relationship is much different, in most ways better, we have gained our son back. I know you question right now what permanent impact your actions will have on your son and your relationship in the future, as I did the same, but I can tell you from experience that my actions in the end caused my son to have more respect for us then he did before. He knows everything we did was because we love him and couldn't sit back and watch him kill himself with drugs, though he wasn't capable of seeing that at the time, but now for today his head is clear and he can see it.
