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<blockquote data-quote="Marcie Mac" data-source="post: 392134" data-attributes="member: 47"><p>I hate to even say this Lisa, but at 30, she is so used to her lifestyle, I dont really think there is anything you or anyone else can say that is going to jolt her into a normal way of life. After a time, the stress of living hand to mouth, in shelters, living here, moving there, well satisfied with a hand out vrs a hand up, choice of a loser daddy and mate, not to mention the drama of it all, its what she likes, and is used to, and is not inclined in the slightest to change, or she would have by now. Your ire at the situation is going to fall on deaf ears, your head is going to burst into flames and its not going to really register. </p><p> </p><p>My suggestion, when she starts with the woe is me, say thats too bad, then change the subject. Put your focus on what you can do to ease the plight of your grandchildren do whenever you can when you can. Their moms decision to drag them into her lifestyle hoovers but nothing you can do apart from calling CPS or taking them in yourself. </p><p> </p><p>It was difficult to finally come to terms with my eldest's lifestyle and producing a baby every relationship to try and seal the current deal with a pot head, crack/meth head and alcoholic, and finally say thats enough drama for me, thank you very much. Any conversations revolve around how the grandkids are doing and I don't ask, or want to know, about how her life with current baby daddy is going or not going. If and when the current relationship tanks, the gkids would be more than welcome to come and stay while she gets on her feet, but she could not ever come here to live again. Am too old and love my no drama status too much LOL</p><p> </p><p>Marcie</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marcie Mac, post: 392134, member: 47"] I hate to even say this Lisa, but at 30, she is so used to her lifestyle, I dont really think there is anything you or anyone else can say that is going to jolt her into a normal way of life. After a time, the stress of living hand to mouth, in shelters, living here, moving there, well satisfied with a hand out vrs a hand up, choice of a loser daddy and mate, not to mention the drama of it all, its what she likes, and is used to, and is not inclined in the slightest to change, or she would have by now. Your ire at the situation is going to fall on deaf ears, your head is going to burst into flames and its not going to really register. My suggestion, when she starts with the woe is me, say thats too bad, then change the subject. Put your focus on what you can do to ease the plight of your grandchildren do whenever you can when you can. Their moms decision to drag them into her lifestyle hoovers but nothing you can do apart from calling CPS or taking them in yourself. It was difficult to finally come to terms with my eldest's lifestyle and producing a baby every relationship to try and seal the current deal with a pot head, crack/meth head and alcoholic, and finally say thats enough drama for me, thank you very much. Any conversations revolve around how the grandkids are doing and I don't ask, or want to know, about how her life with current baby daddy is going or not going. If and when the current relationship tanks, the gkids would be more than welcome to come and stay while she gets on her feet, but she could not ever come here to live again. Am too old and love my no drama status too much LOL Marcie [/QUOTE]
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