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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 753497" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I wonder why we do this to ourselves. That your daughter began to cut, and may have felt a sense of abandonment when you went to Europe, happened. It is an age-appropriate thing that adult children go away to college and that their mothers have a life that is not 100 percent tethered to them. What would you have done differently? Kept her home forever. Would you have never worked, never traveled, in order to have prevented her to feel and to live her real life? All of us have a real life, and our spiritual lives require that we live real lives, and by this we gradually become aware of our soul's purpose.. People that do not live their destinies, die unrealized. There are not good or bad destinies. Each of us has our own true purpose. To keep our children like hot house flowers so that they do not suffer pain means that they never grow. It means we stunt them. Is that what you have preferred that you do?</p><p></p><p>I believe that you did the right thing. Every single thing you do to allow her to be independent and self-reliant is what she deserves. And so do you.</p><p></p><p>She is not responsible for your pain. And you are not responsible for hers.</p><p></p><p>Personally I think her diagnosis is the least important thing here. And yes psychologists and social workers and marriage and family counselors can legally diagnosis.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 753497, member: 18958"] I wonder why we do this to ourselves. That your daughter began to cut, and may have felt a sense of abandonment when you went to Europe, happened. It is an age-appropriate thing that adult children go away to college and that their mothers have a life that is not 100 percent tethered to them. What would you have done differently? Kept her home forever. Would you have never worked, never traveled, in order to have prevented her to feel and to live her real life? All of us have a real life, and our spiritual lives require that we live real lives, and by this we gradually become aware of our soul's purpose.. People that do not live their destinies, die unrealized. There are not good or bad destinies. Each of us has our own true purpose. To keep our children like hot house flowers so that they do not suffer pain means that they never grow. It means we stunt them. Is that what you have preferred that you do? I believe that you did the right thing. Every single thing you do to allow her to be independent and self-reliant is what she deserves. And so do you. She is not responsible for your pain. And you are not responsible for hers. Personally I think her diagnosis is the least important thing here. And yes psychologists and social workers and marriage and family counselors can legally diagnosis. [/QUOTE]
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