WiseChoices
Well-Known Member
Things are awful between my daughter and I. I no longer recognize the beautiful, sweet young lady she used to be. There is something very very wrong.
My family, husband included, lived like pigs while I was gone for a month and I cleaned one month worth of dirt in my house today.
Daughter was nice again last night after I told her I would not do billing or give rides to therapist I will not deal with. She got upset initially which I understand. She made dinner for everyone and acted normally even with me. Husband agreed to take her to pharmacy as she had convinced psychiatrist to change her Prozac to Effexor and after 1-2 weeks or so , she feels it is not working for her and she called the Prozac in. (We have been through these scenarios many times). The pharmacy was closed.
I reminded her this morning that today was cleaning day and I wanted her to do her part (which takes 10 minutes). She said she was aware of that. Stayed holed up in her room all day. Every time she came out and ate or drank something , she left it out and I reminded to clean up after herself which she reacts grumpily to - at one point throwing a measuring cup past me into the sink filled with water.
Emerging from room again suddenly pleasant suggesting we play Scrabble later. I said it was a nice idea and maybe we could. (All the while I am cleaning)
Emerging some time later, she wants to bake for her study group at school and we are out of butter. She says we can buy butter when we go pick up medications. (This means I would pay for butter)
10 minutes later she comes out again and asks when we will pick up medications. I tell her when she will get her cleaning done, we can go. She says she prefers a less manipulative option. I shut up and continued cleansing. She walked off.
Comes out again. Speaks to me firmly "Look. I have a lot of school work today and I don't have time to clean right now. If I don't get my medications , I will go into withdrawal." I try to be reasonable and say that she could have just told me that this morning. And I ask at what time it would get done. I say she wants something from me and I want something in return . She rambles on about me not being home this evening (not sure what that has anything to do with anything) and to get her attention, I say her name. She retorts with mine and not in a nice way. I tell her I will only continue to talk when she is calm. She says she is calm and calm and wasn't even yelling. I tell her I don't like her tone and she says I never do and walk off again.
Everything is a power struggle . Please tell me of you feel I am contributing to power struggle or if I am being unreasonable here. I feel I am being manipulated but also feel confused. Am I being too difficult? Too hard?
She is acting like an addict in my opinion. They may all be prescribed antidepressants, but she has 4 of them right now including an antihistamine. If she is telling the truth. I don't know whether she got Ativan or not since husband did not check. She is not acting right. Do I ask to see the 4 bottles she got the other day?
I feel like I am going crazy and that lets me know she is manipulating me and that something is off. Her arm looked like she had reopened some previous cuts while I have been away and it looked very recent - maybe last night. She had been in long sleeves on video chats and when I got home. Today it is short sleeves like she wanted me to see.
I am starting to feel like I cannot live in the same house with her anymore.
My family, husband included, lived like pigs while I was gone for a month and I cleaned one month worth of dirt in my house today.
Daughter was nice again last night after I told her I would not do billing or give rides to therapist I will not deal with. She got upset initially which I understand. She made dinner for everyone and acted normally even with me. Husband agreed to take her to pharmacy as she had convinced psychiatrist to change her Prozac to Effexor and after 1-2 weeks or so , she feels it is not working for her and she called the Prozac in. (We have been through these scenarios many times). The pharmacy was closed.
I reminded her this morning that today was cleaning day and I wanted her to do her part (which takes 10 minutes). She said she was aware of that. Stayed holed up in her room all day. Every time she came out and ate or drank something , she left it out and I reminded to clean up after herself which she reacts grumpily to - at one point throwing a measuring cup past me into the sink filled with water.
Emerging from room again suddenly pleasant suggesting we play Scrabble later. I said it was a nice idea and maybe we could. (All the while I am cleaning)
Emerging some time later, she wants to bake for her study group at school and we are out of butter. She says we can buy butter when we go pick up medications. (This means I would pay for butter)
10 minutes later she comes out again and asks when we will pick up medications. I tell her when she will get her cleaning done, we can go. She says she prefers a less manipulative option. I shut up and continued cleansing. She walked off.
Comes out again. Speaks to me firmly "Look. I have a lot of school work today and I don't have time to clean right now. If I don't get my medications , I will go into withdrawal." I try to be reasonable and say that she could have just told me that this morning. And I ask at what time it would get done. I say she wants something from me and I want something in return . She rambles on about me not being home this evening (not sure what that has anything to do with anything) and to get her attention, I say her name. She retorts with mine and not in a nice way. I tell her I will only continue to talk when she is calm. She says she is calm and calm and wasn't even yelling. I tell her I don't like her tone and she says I never do and walk off again.
Everything is a power struggle . Please tell me of you feel I am contributing to power struggle or if I am being unreasonable here. I feel I am being manipulated but also feel confused. Am I being too difficult? Too hard?
She is acting like an addict in my opinion. They may all be prescribed antidepressants, but she has 4 of them right now including an antihistamine. If she is telling the truth. I don't know whether she got Ativan or not since husband did not check. She is not acting right. Do I ask to see the 4 bottles she got the other day?
I feel like I am going crazy and that lets me know she is manipulating me and that something is off. Her arm looked like she had reopened some previous cuts while I have been away and it looked very recent - maybe last night. She had been in long sleeves on video chats and when I got home. Today it is short sleeves like she wanted me to see.
I am starting to feel like I cannot live in the same house with her anymore.