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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 753566" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Yes. A corrosive effect.</p><p>This while true is the height of ridiculousness. There are big public infrastructure projects that change the course of rivers, say. And this takes resources beyond a single person. Beyond even a community. Either a corporation or a government. One person can't control or even effect another person in a meaningful way, if that person is hellbent with their own will. And even rivers return to their true path when there are storms. They just go right back to their age old place and patterns.</p><p></p><p>There is a reality in my life that my son is hellbent with his own will. This is normal. This is the way of life. But I have to find a way to protect myself. And I can't expect M to carry me or my son. It's not working.</p><p></p><p>I don't know what to do about the biopsy.</p><p></p><p> What I can't stand is M turning on me because my son is intolerable. But my choices are very few. I can let my son live as he wishes in my other property, and M moves out. But my son will not pay rent.</p><p></p><p>And he will also not leave without the police. That's what happened last year.</p><p>Do I call the police repeatedly again, to get him out? Do I wait until after the biopsy?</p><p></p><p>I woke up at 430 am. That's the second time this week. Monday or Tuesday I think it was I woke at 230 am.</p><p></p><p>This is not getting better. My son used up $750 in 12 days. How? And the expectation is that I or Miguel support him for the rest of the month. This is recurrent. I can't close my eyes to it. I know my son has to leave.</p><p></p><p>M gets mad at me. He says make one single decision and stick with it. When he says this I don't know what he's talking about. How do you make this kind of decision? And many times M has been the one to soften and to let my son back. And then I'm holding the bag.</p><p></p><p>I worry a lot about being all alone. It never bothered me that much before, but it does now. Because I am getting old. I feel the changes in my body and mind. I'm not the fearless and mobile person I once was. The thought of being all alone facing old age frightens me. I don't have much of a local support system or other family besides M. But I'm not the only person in the situation I find myself in. And it's changeable too. I have to find a way to deal.</p><p></p><p>Sorry to hijack your thread, Wise.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 753566, member: 18958"] Yes. A corrosive effect. This while true is the height of ridiculousness. There are big public infrastructure projects that change the course of rivers, say. And this takes resources beyond a single person. Beyond even a community. Either a corporation or a government. One person can't control or even effect another person in a meaningful way, if that person is hellbent with their own will. And even rivers return to their true path when there are storms. They just go right back to their age old place and patterns. There is a reality in my life that my son is hellbent with his own will. This is normal. This is the way of life. But I have to find a way to protect myself. And I can't expect M to carry me or my son. It's not working. I don't know what to do about the biopsy. What I can't stand is M turning on me because my son is intolerable. But my choices are very few. I can let my son live as he wishes in my other property, and M moves out. But my son will not pay rent. And he will also not leave without the police. That's what happened last year. Do I call the police repeatedly again, to get him out? Do I wait until after the biopsy? I woke up at 430 am. That's the second time this week. Monday or Tuesday I think it was I woke at 230 am. This is not getting better. My son used up $750 in 12 days. How? And the expectation is that I or Miguel support him for the rest of the month. This is recurrent. I can't close my eyes to it. I know my son has to leave. M gets mad at me. He says make one single decision and stick with it. When he says this I don't know what he's talking about. How do you make this kind of decision? And many times M has been the one to soften and to let my son back. And then I'm holding the bag. I worry a lot about being all alone. It never bothered me that much before, but it does now. Because I am getting old. I feel the changes in my body and mind. I'm not the fearless and mobile person I once was. The thought of being all alone facing old age frightens me. I don't have much of a local support system or other family besides M. But I'm not the only person in the situation I find myself in. And it's changeable too. I have to find a way to deal. Sorry to hijack your thread, Wise. [/QUOTE]
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