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Princess explained how Goneboy, her brother, proposed marriage to her...ick!!@
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 721716" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Older adoptees tend to have attachment problems and other issues. Trust me, you are lucky you did not adopt an older child. Goneboy was actually better behaved than most older adopted kids. When a child is unloved in infancy and then for years, they do not usually suddenly know how to feel love or evrn want it...many are difficult children from Day One and some never know how to love. I saw many parents very distraught.</p><p></p><p>I was in a huge adoptive parent group. Bad adjustment of older children and chaos was the norm, not the exception. Baby adoptions are way different.</p><p></p><p>I am only answering this post to talk to lurkers who may be thinking they can adopt an older child and love will cure all and I cant recommend it. Of course, it is my opinion and experience plus what I saw with others.</p><p></p><p>If anyone adopted a child older than five and it turned out loving and well now that they are adults, i welcome hearing about the experience. Even three. I saw none. Of course there must be some exceptions, but I dont know any and was entrenched in the adoption world. So I would welcome a happy older adoption story.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 721716, member: 1550"] Older adoptees tend to have attachment problems and other issues. Trust me, you are lucky you did not adopt an older child. Goneboy was actually better behaved than most older adopted kids. When a child is unloved in infancy and then for years, they do not usually suddenly know how to feel love or evrn want it...many are difficult children from Day One and some never know how to love. I saw many parents very distraught. I was in a huge adoptive parent group. Bad adjustment of older children and chaos was the norm, not the exception. Baby adoptions are way different. I am only answering this post to talk to lurkers who may be thinking they can adopt an older child and love will cure all and I cant recommend it. Of course, it is my opinion and experience plus what I saw with others. If anyone adopted a child older than five and it turned out loving and well now that they are adults, i welcome hearing about the experience. Even three. I saw none. Of course there must be some exceptions, but I dont know any and was entrenched in the adoption world. So I would welcome a happy older adoption story. [/QUOTE]
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