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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 320848" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>Thanks, DDD! I emailed the HR person in HI on Monday to ask if she knew when I might get a final answer from them. She said she expected a final word from the security officer "in a few days". She said he was reviewing the package of my stuff with the people I would be working for and they needed to sign off on it, or let HR know that they decided against it. I <em>tend</em> to think that since I haven't heard "No" yet, it might be a good sign. Anyway, she said that's all they were waiting on before confirming their offer to me and then she would need ...actually, here is what she said:</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>There was other stuff but this was the part pertaining to the start date. I emailed back asking if that date was negotiable at all and she said "yes, within reason". </p><p></p><p>Right now, difficult child's tentative release is supposed to be sometime around the 3rd week of Feb. and I'm sure that I can't get HR to wait that long. If I got out there Dec 21 (which is a big stretch to think I could make it that soon), Department of Juvenile Justice will have to figure out what to do with difficult child until the interstate stuff is done, and that can take 3 months after I move, which is what I'm trying to avoid. My goal was to tell HR that I could start around Jan 11 and take difficult child with me. The specifics I wrote to Department of Juvenile Justice director are this: if difficult child can be released around the 1st of Jan, allowing us to arrive in HI Jan 4 or 5, I can get difficult child enrolled in school there that week and their second semester starts on Jan 5, and I can start the job around Jan 11. The director said this sounded like a good plan.</p><p></p><p>As far as housing, there is a lodge (multiple rooms/suites) that can be used by DOD employees and their families until they find permanent housing and I plan for us to stay there at first- of course reservations have to bee made in advance and if I go alone before the holidays, that's going to be a problem because it's also used by families visiting military personnel). Anyway, I already asked HI's parole super if that place would be acceptable to get their approval for difficult child's home and she said it was- that they have had military people come in with kids on parole and stay there in the past until they found a permanent place.</p><p></p><p>Yes, I need to stay focused on where to go from here until I find out for sure about that job. difficult child called last night and that's what I told him, too, I just have been racking my brain trying to get over my initial reaction to this yesterday and figuring out if it's even feasible to pursue this anymore. Really, I guess I need to form a Plan C now- quickly. It might be that the county people are just going to throw wrenches in any plan for difficult child to go to HI and they just aren't saying that out-right. If I had any idea how to provide a home and support difficult child on min wage, I'd grab any job I could find in a neghboring state and go that route. But I swear, I don't- how does a person afford rent for any place livable and be able to put food on the table and buy clothes for a teen on min wage? And two jobs is out because then I can't keep him supervised as parole requires. And, whatever job I get has to allow time off for IEP meetings, parole appts, and whatever parole requires difficult child to do that they won't let him do without my involvement or needing me transporting him.</p><p></p><p>Oh- I do understand that they can't or wouldn't pursue potential scenarios that a parent doesn't even have confirmed, but as I explained to them, I will need to tell HR whether or not I'm accepting the job and when I'll be there soon after the confirmation (assuming, again), and it according to CM, it will take at least 2 weeks to get committe approval of any request pertaining to a release date so I needed to get a find out if they would pursue that or not so I could know what to tell HR. They seemed to understand that- they know its a DOD job and the fed government just isn't going to wait for weeks for me to wait on Department of Juvenile Justice before I even answer their offer- never mind that they have spent 3 months with the application and clearance process. LOL!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 320848, member: 3699"] Thanks, DDD! I emailed the HR person in HI on Monday to ask if she knew when I might get a final answer from them. She said she expected a final word from the security officer "in a few days". She said he was reviewing the package of my stuff with the people I would be working for and they needed to sign off on it, or let HR know that they decided against it. I [I]tend[/I] to think that since I haven't heard "No" yet, it might be a good sign. Anyway, she said that's all they were waiting on before confirming their offer to me and then she would need ...actually, here is what she said: There was other stuff but this was the part pertaining to the start date. I emailed back asking if that date was negotiable at all and she said "yes, within reason". Right now, difficult child's tentative release is supposed to be sometime around the 3rd week of Feb. and I'm sure that I can't get HR to wait that long. If I got out there Dec 21 (which is a big stretch to think I could make it that soon), Department of Juvenile Justice will have to figure out what to do with difficult child until the interstate stuff is done, and that can take 3 months after I move, which is what I'm trying to avoid. My goal was to tell HR that I could start around Jan 11 and take difficult child with me. The specifics I wrote to Department of Juvenile Justice director are this: if difficult child can be released around the 1st of Jan, allowing us to arrive in HI Jan 4 or 5, I can get difficult child enrolled in school there that week and their second semester starts on Jan 5, and I can start the job around Jan 11. The director said this sounded like a good plan. As far as housing, there is a lodge (multiple rooms/suites) that can be used by DOD employees and their families until they find permanent housing and I plan for us to stay there at first- of course reservations have to bee made in advance and if I go alone before the holidays, that's going to be a problem because it's also used by families visiting military personnel). Anyway, I already asked HI's parole super if that place would be acceptable to get their approval for difficult child's home and she said it was- that they have had military people come in with kids on parole and stay there in the past until they found a permanent place. Yes, I need to stay focused on where to go from here until I find out for sure about that job. difficult child called last night and that's what I told him, too, I just have been racking my brain trying to get over my initial reaction to this yesterday and figuring out if it's even feasible to pursue this anymore. Really, I guess I need to form a Plan C now- quickly. It might be that the county people are just going to throw wrenches in any plan for difficult child to go to HI and they just aren't saying that out-right. If I had any idea how to provide a home and support difficult child on min wage, I'd grab any job I could find in a neghboring state and go that route. But I swear, I don't- how does a person afford rent for any place livable and be able to put food on the table and buy clothes for a teen on min wage? And two jobs is out because then I can't keep him supervised as parole requires. And, whatever job I get has to allow time off for IEP meetings, parole appts, and whatever parole requires difficult child to do that they won't let him do without my involvement or needing me transporting him. Oh- I do understand that they can't or wouldn't pursue potential scenarios that a parent doesn't even have confirmed, but as I explained to them, I will need to tell HR whether or not I'm accepting the job and when I'll be there soon after the confirmation (assuming, again), and it according to CM, it will take at least 2 weeks to get committe approval of any request pertaining to a release date so I needed to get a find out if they would pursue that or not so I could know what to tell HR. They seemed to understand that- they know its a DOD job and the fed government just isn't going to wait for weeks for me to wait on Department of Juvenile Justice before I even answer their offer- never mind that they have spent 3 months with the application and clearance process. LOL! [/QUOTE]
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