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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 320857" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>People at the Department of Juvenile Justice facility already did move fast- the director only got her letter early this week and they were moving on it. It was PO (at our county) who threw a wrench in it yesterday.</p><p></p><p>difficult child will not be ok if dogs don't go. therapist was in support of keeping them- a lot. I have gotten their blood test and called HI quarantine people and they have received what they need- except for the fee and paperwork that I have to take with me (health certificates, etc) and they told me that the dogs will be allowed on the island Feb. 19th. That's another reason for trying to put the move off as long as possible- it's less quarantine time.</p><p></p><p>Of course, if I don't go until Jan and difficult child can't be let out early, this puts him in a mess between Feb. and April. If they would tell me where he would be (just held at same facility or what), it would help me make the decision. Supposedly, they usually hold the child but for some reason, the CM brought up a group home. difficult child is adament that he can't stand that thought and that kids abuse other kids in the Department of Juvenile Justice group homes- and the PO pretty much told me the same thing, which is why I quit pushing that before and resolved myself to difficult child coming straight home.</p><p></p><p>Anyway, I'll try to get PO and CM to work something out if the job comes thru. Of course, that's going to require the PO to actually check into things and form a plan and not just explain to me that he can't do an interstate paperwork until I move. In the meantime, I'm moving onto forming the next plan. LOL!</p><p></p><p>If I get the job in HI, I will ask the HR people what is the latest I could be there. Then, I will ask for a few days to think about it and look at schedule. I will use that few days to 1) see how long I can financially make it before going 2) see if I can stay in this house that long, and 3) see what Department of Juvenile Justice and PO say about releasing difficult child on whatever date I come up with. If they won't commit to anything- if difficult child can go, what happens to him if he doesn't go with me, etc., I can't see taking it. That's my worst nightmare though because I don't have anything else. Then, I'll catch **** for not accepting a job offer after being unemployed so long and having a child, of course. I can tell you the DOD people will flip if I don't take it, too, after spending so much time on this process. This is why they ask if you accept a tentative offer before they start the "real" process of clearance and so forth.</p><p></p><p>As an afterthought, if these people don't have time to work with the parent, then they need to let the parent off the hook and quit claimiing they are case managers who HAVE to know what is going on with the parent. It works two ways, in my humble opinion. I've been sent paperwork for 6 months saying they need to know right away if any status changes regarding difficult child's plan for after release and anything about me pertaining to difficult child. If they want in control of it, they need to find time for it. That is part of their job.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 320857, member: 3699"] People at the Department of Juvenile Justice facility already did move fast- the director only got her letter early this week and they were moving on it. It was PO (at our county) who threw a wrench in it yesterday. difficult child will not be ok if dogs don't go. therapist was in support of keeping them- a lot. I have gotten their blood test and called HI quarantine people and they have received what they need- except for the fee and paperwork that I have to take with me (health certificates, etc) and they told me that the dogs will be allowed on the island Feb. 19th. That's another reason for trying to put the move off as long as possible- it's less quarantine time. Of course, if I don't go until Jan and difficult child can't be let out early, this puts him in a mess between Feb. and April. If they would tell me where he would be (just held at same facility or what), it would help me make the decision. Supposedly, they usually hold the child but for some reason, the CM brought up a group home. difficult child is adament that he can't stand that thought and that kids abuse other kids in the Department of Juvenile Justice group homes- and the PO pretty much told me the same thing, which is why I quit pushing that before and resolved myself to difficult child coming straight home. Anyway, I'll try to get PO and CM to work something out if the job comes thru. Of course, that's going to require the PO to actually check into things and form a plan and not just explain to me that he can't do an interstate paperwork until I move. In the meantime, I'm moving onto forming the next plan. LOL! If I get the job in HI, I will ask the HR people what is the latest I could be there. Then, I will ask for a few days to think about it and look at schedule. I will use that few days to 1) see how long I can financially make it before going 2) see if I can stay in this house that long, and 3) see what Department of Juvenile Justice and PO say about releasing difficult child on whatever date I come up with. If they won't commit to anything- if difficult child can go, what happens to him if he doesn't go with me, etc., I can't see taking it. That's my worst nightmare though because I don't have anything else. Then, I'll catch **** for not accepting a job offer after being unemployed so long and having a child, of course. I can tell you the DOD people will flip if I don't take it, too, after spending so much time on this process. This is why they ask if you accept a tentative offer before they start the "real" process of clearance and so forth. As an afterthought, if these people don't have time to work with the parent, then they need to let the parent off the hook and quit claimiing they are case managers who HAVE to know what is going on with the parent. It works two ways, in my humble opinion. I've been sent paperwork for 6 months saying they need to know right away if any status changes regarding difficult child's plan for after release and anything about me pertaining to difficult child. If they want in control of it, they need to find time for it. That is part of their job. [/QUOTE]
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