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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 714751" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I was lucky. They dumped me so I was freed. I would never have taken on a caregiver role to my mother...my siblings would have had to do it. My mother was never nice to me, even when I was small. She didnt visit me when I had major surgery and I was glad. I did not necessarily feel obligated due to DNA. I adopted three of the most previous children ever and know that DNA has nothing to do with love or in my opinion obligation. If someone is unkind to me....and this is even moreso now....I dont feel I owe them anything. My mother had brain cancer at 75. By then she was a stranger to me, having refused to see me for over a decade for no reason that anyone could say, but I think I know. I forgave her in a medium reading and love her very much now. I know she is sorry and I was not a model daughter...it is okay now. I pray with love to her now. But she did hurt me very much...a lesson, I am sure. As is my sister. She is not a bad person to others. She just doesnt like the way I am and I like me now. I can change myself to a point, but I am unwilling to have to think about every single word I say. I am done, at least in this life, with trying. I took her back at least ten times after she dumped me ten times. I am a slow learner with those I love. But I am done.</p><p></p><p>My kids grew up seeing them snub me. My Mother didnt even meet my two youngest kids ever. She could not poisen them. They saw how she treated me and they are protective of me in their way. My two youngest daughters dont even think I should have anything to fo with my oldest son because he can be mean. But I love him. I understand them not wanting to have anything to do with him, but I have to. Myother was nithing fo them. It was best.</p><p></p><p>The good news is I have a happy, peaceful life free of most drama. My husband is very chill person and rarely gets upset. My three youngest kids are low drama, nice, great kids. My oldest is drama, but he doesnt phase me much anymore. I dont see him...just the phone. My husband...i love him more each year. I do not know many husbands as wonderful as he is.</p><p></p><p>I feel very blessed. In the end it was a gift to be scapegoated and to get away and to learn forgiveness. I truly have no malice toward anyone now....not on earth or in spirit.</p><p></p><p>Well, thats sbout it. I wish I could hug you and tell you that I understand and that you are a very worthy spirit...that you are strong and kind and caring. I hope you can still trust. There are good people.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 714751, member: 1550"] I was lucky. They dumped me so I was freed. I would never have taken on a caregiver role to my mother...my siblings would have had to do it. My mother was never nice to me, even when I was small. She didnt visit me when I had major surgery and I was glad. I did not necessarily feel obligated due to DNA. I adopted three of the most previous children ever and know that DNA has nothing to do with love or in my opinion obligation. If someone is unkind to me....and this is even moreso now....I dont feel I owe them anything. My mother had brain cancer at 75. By then she was a stranger to me, having refused to see me for over a decade for no reason that anyone could say, but I think I know. I forgave her in a medium reading and love her very much now. I know she is sorry and I was not a model daughter...it is okay now. I pray with love to her now. But she did hurt me very much...a lesson, I am sure. As is my sister. She is not a bad person to others. She just doesnt like the way I am and I like me now. I can change myself to a point, but I am unwilling to have to think about every single word I say. I am done, at least in this life, with trying. I took her back at least ten times after she dumped me ten times. I am a slow learner with those I love. But I am done. My kids grew up seeing them snub me. My Mother didnt even meet my two youngest kids ever. She could not poisen them. They saw how she treated me and they are protective of me in their way. My two youngest daughters dont even think I should have anything to fo with my oldest son because he can be mean. But I love him. I understand them not wanting to have anything to do with him, but I have to. Myother was nithing fo them. It was best. The good news is I have a happy, peaceful life free of most drama. My husband is very chill person and rarely gets upset. My three youngest kids are low drama, nice, great kids. My oldest is drama, but he doesnt phase me much anymore. I dont see him...just the phone. My husband...i love him more each year. I do not know many husbands as wonderful as he is. I feel very blessed. In the end it was a gift to be scapegoated and to get away and to learn forgiveness. I truly have no malice toward anyone now....not on earth or in spirit. Well, thats sbout it. I wish I could hug you and tell you that I understand and that you are a very worthy spirit...that you are strong and kind and caring. I hope you can still trust. There are good people. [/QUOTE]
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