Yesterday it was anger, today fear . . . I have many techniques I use to combat fear - EFT, mantras, prayer. I am looking forward to learning more techniques moms/grandmas use on this page. I heard something about a list of things to prepare you for anything and I would like a link to that if anyone has one. How to deal with someone showing up on your doorstep late at night (which is torture for most moms/grandmas/family members)? What kinds of things do you tell yourself about the alcoholic/addict that give you peace (in place of fear)? I don't want to write my fears down today because I do feel that puts me in a fear cycle - I will just say I had specific fears about the alcoholics well-being and concerns about how I would handle bad news or someone showing up on my doorstep late at night/or in bad shape. I got a message recently saying "I'm in rough shape," and when I responded, there was no answer and then he asked if I could "come get him" (but I had no idea where he was). I texted someone else who went out looking for the person and found him - he was in the mountains, ran out of gas, and drunk and this was at night. He has had medical emergencies before so to get one of those messages is terrifying to me. I need to know how to prepare myself for unbelievable circumstances. Just thinking about this puts my stomach in knots. How have moms/grandmas dealt with this kind of thing without going crazy? Thanks!