Most of you have heard me talk about how opinionated, etc my mother is and how it has affected me AND my boys over the years. For a refresher, check out all my threads from last June - October. Today, we were at my sister's house for supper. difficult child 2 asked me if he could have a soda. I told him "no caffeine and Dr Pepper ONLY if it is caffeine free" (my sister & mom drink caffeine free versions). He came in with soda for several people that had asked him to grab something for them. It wasn't until we were sitting down to eat that I saw him drinking a REGULAR Dr Pepper. difficult child 1 asked if he could have a soda and I told him simply "no caffeine" (he doesn't drink Dr Pepper in any form). He went out to get one and yelled back "can I have a Coke". I replied no so he told me to come out there because there was nothing else he likes. My mom makes a comment about Coke being the worst for caffeine, which I completely ignored (yea me!!) I went out there and the only other thing they have that he likes is Sprite....except that this can had the pictures of the bigger lemon & lime on the can. He "don't like lemon lime". I tried telling him that ALL Sprite and 7Up are lemon lime but he wasn't having any of it. He started complaining about difficult child 2 having caffeine and it wasn't fair and what was he supposed to have...... I told him that "difficult child 2 did NOT follow my directions and I will deal with that when we get home but that does not mean that you don't have to follow my directions". I left him out there to process and came back in to eat. He came back in a few minutes later with nothing to drink so my sister asked him if he wanted some milk. He was completely calm and acted like nothing happened when he politely told her no thanks. Not even a glare at difficult child 2. I was soooo impressed! After supper, as she was helping clean up, my mother comes over to me and quietly said "I hope my comment about the Coke didn't cause a problem". I explained to her that it had nothing to do with it, that we have a rule about caffeine, that difficult child 2 didn't follow my directions and that I'd deal with it at home, that difficult child 1 just needed some time to process, etc. She said "I saw that he came back in like nothing happened". I told her that yes, we are working on that stuck thinking but that we are making progress. She nodded and smiled. WOW!! THAT whole scenario completely shocked me. Now keep in mind that I'm pushing 50 and my mother has NEVER acted like this in any way, shape, or form. This was a FIRST EEEEVVVVEEEERRRR!!! Who did what to my mother?..........AND...........THANK YOU for doing it!!!