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<blockquote data-quote="2much2recover" data-source="post: 636887" data-attributes="member: 18366"><p>I don't have an "official" diagnosis either I just go by the old fashioned "if it walks like a duck" common sense and go from there because so much of what I research fits to a T. Also it was my own therapist that put me on to what I was dealing with. Aa sociopath sees nothing wrong with what he does, it is highly unlikely you will get an official diagnosis. </p><p></p><p></p><p>That is the whole point of going No contact - <em>THEY ARE THE MOST SELFISH PEOPLE ON THE PLANET! They will use and abuse anyone that even tries to help them because using and abusing is the basis of their personality. </em>Think about this: we are talking some kind of personality disorder here with your son - can <em>you </em>completely and utterly change every single aspect of your personality to be a complete user and abuser? No, you can't change your personality and neither can JT. You can hold out hope that he will change, but just like you he is <em>unable </em>to change his personality. This situation with your son is not of your making and you can not fix it no matter what you do. Try and see him as the "broken" person he is. All of your focus should be on protecting Bubby because JT is NEVER, EVER, going to be able to come through for you. Plan what you need for Bubby's future needs! </p><p></p><p></p><p>With a Sociopath you should indeed worry about what he is capable of. Let me say that the reason you keep being victimized by JT is that he has identified you as an easy target on the basis of all that you have done for him in the past. He is<em> very</em> comfortable in controlling and manipulating you/your family because he KNOWS he can do that so well with you and he has figured out you are an easy "mark". He knows how to gas-light you into sometimes even doing things you swore you would never do because of <em>your own guilt!</em> Hearing your story, it worries me too what he is capable of doing to Bubby because he knows you want to protect Bubby; so that is somewhere he can hit you where it really hurts. JT is definitely capable of leading Bubby down a dark path just because Bubby can't understand what JT is capable of. So it then again is up to you/your family to find ways to protect Bubby and your family. </p><p></p><p>For telephone I use VOIP (internet calling NetTalk) easy to keep the number secure and easy to block callers if JT finds out the number. Secure every bit of your families credit and identity as a sociopath has no problem robbing their own family.</p><p></p><p>I watched a You Tube Video the other day and the main message I got was either be willing to expose the sociopath for what they are or get away and stay away from them. Yes, 2 choices only.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="2much2recover, post: 636887, member: 18366"] I don't have an "official" diagnosis either I just go by the old fashioned "if it walks like a duck" common sense and go from there because so much of what I research fits to a T. Also it was my own therapist that put me on to what I was dealing with. Aa sociopath sees nothing wrong with what he does, it is highly unlikely you will get an official diagnosis. That is the whole point of going No contact - [I]THEY ARE THE MOST SELFISH PEOPLE ON THE PLANET! They will use and abuse anyone that even tries to help them because using and abusing is the basis of their personality. [/I]Think about this: we are talking some kind of personality disorder here with your son - can [I]you [/I]completely and utterly change every single aspect of your personality to be a complete user and abuser? No, you can't change your personality and neither can JT. You can hold out hope that he will change, but just like you he is [I]unable [/I]to change his personality.[I] [/I] This situation with your son is not of your making and you can not fix it no matter what you do. Try and see him as the "broken" person he is. All of your focus should be on protecting Bubby because JT is NEVER, EVER, going to be able to come through for you. Plan what you need for Bubby's future needs! With a Sociopath you should indeed worry about what he is capable of. Let me say that the reason you keep being victimized by JT is that he has identified you as an easy target on the basis of all that you have done for him in the past. He is[I] very[/I] comfortable in controlling and manipulating you/your family because he KNOWS he can do that so well with you and he has figured out you are an easy "mark". He knows how to gas-light you into sometimes even doing things you swore you would never do because of [I]your own guilt![/I] Hearing your story, it worries me too what he is capable of doing to Bubby because he knows you want to protect Bubby; so that is somewhere he can hit you where it really hurts. JT is definitely capable of leading Bubby down a dark path just because Bubby can't understand what JT is capable of. So it then again is up to you/your family to find ways to protect Bubby and your family. For telephone I use VOIP (internet calling NetTalk) easy to keep the number secure and easy to block callers if JT finds out the number. Secure every bit of your families credit and identity as a sociopath has no problem robbing their own family. I watched a You Tube Video the other day and the main message I got was either be willing to expose the sociopath for what they are or get away and stay away from them. Yes, 2 choices only. [/QUOTE]
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