JJJ,
I know how you feel. Dylan's neuropsychologist report put him in the MR level for alot of things. Although I didn't particulary agree with it, it really hurt my feelings and upset me to know someone thought he was at that level.
It sounds like there's a do-able plan in place. The theraputic day treatment is probably a really good idea. Smaller, more structured environments seem to really do well for our kiddos. Dylan's done really well in the smaller, Emotional Support classroom of 8 kids and 2 teachers. Big difference.
As for the parenting stuff, yeah, I'd get offended too, but I understand why they recommend it. These kids are certainly not typical.
Hugs to you,
Janna